Adoption Promise

What is an Adoption Home Study?

2012-01-24T12:34:00.000-08:00

Adoptive families just starting the adoption process may feel overwhelmed by all the paperwork and tasks involved, including the home study conducted by a social worker.

Now, you can learn more about what an adoption home study entails through requesting a FREE special report at www.AdoptionHomeStudyReport.com.

In this free report, you'll learn:

What a home study is, and what it isn't.
The one main reason people can't pass a home study.
Key tips for home study preparation.
Easy ways to make your home study provider feel at ease in your home.
What to expect when the social worker comes to visit.
…and much, much more!

Visit www.AdoptionHomeStudyReport.com to access your FREE report today!

Please Enter Lifetime Adoption Foundation in the Sock It To Me Sweepstakes

2012-01-17T12:40:00.001-08:00

If you have a minute, can you please enter our non-profit, Lifetime Adoption Foundation, in this sweepstakes on Facebook to win socks? Socks are wonderful items for us to have on-hand to send to Lifetime birthmothers! To enter, please visit this link to "like" their page: http://www.facebook.com/DollarDays?sk=app_121121694568521

Adoption Webinar Tonight: Overcoming Common Barriers to Beginning a Path to Adoption

2012-01-10T10:23:00.000-08:00

If you, or someone you love, is thinking about adopting a child, please join us tonight at 5pm Pacific Time, for a FREE webinar, hosted by Lifetime's caring and experienced staff. This webinar is perfect for anyone who wants this New Year to be THE YEAR they get closer to the child long hoped for.

Mark your calendar and REGISTER to attend Lifetime's FREE Adoption Webinar, Overcoming the Common Barriers to Beginning a Path to Adoption, which will air LIVE tonight.You can join us at:
5pm Pacific Time
6pm Mountain Time
7pm Central Time
8pm Eastern Time

Find out how you can move beyond the questions, doubts, fears, or confusion of beginning your adoption. You’ll gain tips and information that will take you toward your successful adoption.

Once you register you'll immediately receive an email with the link or number to attend LIVE tonight, January 10^th.You may attend by PHONE or ONLINE from a computer, or your Smart Phone. To attend using your iPhone or Droid download a free webinar app. (Please refer to your personal data plan to find out if charges may apply to attend from your cell phone using this app.)Start 2012 off in a direction that will take you closer to the family you’ve longed for.If you are ready to begin an adoption, contact us today.

Take the next step toward the family you've been hoping for. Contact the Lifetime office: (530) 432-7373 or email adopt@lifetimeadoption.com.

Support Adoption Charity with a Year End Tax-Deductible Gift

2011-12-30T14:07:00.000-08:00

As we look back on the blessings and challenges of 2011, we see very clearly that the help and support of so many friends and volunteers has made a difference in the lives of thousands of women and children.

Ensuring a family is available for every child is at times a difficult task, especially when there are special needs or circumstances involved.

Through generosity of people like you, 2011 has been our most successful year ever and even now, through the holidays, we've been working with four very special children, all of whom would be considered "hard-to-place", but who will soon be home with forever families!

If you have given a year end gift already, please accept our greatest thanks.

If you haven't, there is still time!

Your gift will go directly to help ensure that these children will have the opportunity for a stable home and loving parents for a Lifetime.You can make your year end gift now by clicking here. It's quick and secure.

Getting Through the Holidays While Waiting to Adopt

2011-12-13T09:38:00.001-08:00

Are you a waiting adoptive family? During the holiday season many adopting parents experience additional pressure from family who wonder about their adoption progress. This wonderful article in Adoption Today magazine shares some tips other families have used to manage potential "holiday blues" while waiting to adopt:

Click here to read this adoption article.

The Power of Prayer as You Wait for Your Family Blessing

2011-12-06T10:03:00.001-08:00

You have made the decision to adopt and things may not be moving along as perfectly as expected. There are snags, hold ups, or maybe more serious issues such as a birthmother changing her mind or simply not selecting you to parent the child that she bore. Those are some of the issues that potential adoptive parents may face. While these obstacles may feel like they can’t be overcome, the truth is that they are not stronger than the power of prayer.

As a potential adoptive parent, you will have to believe in your prayers and that, through them, you will be victorious in your quest to adopt. Some couples have spent the greater part of their marriage trying to conceive a child on their own. Along with that struggle came tears, fear, and heartache knowing that they were not achieving success and that they may never have a biological child of their own. But, many of those couples got strength from another place…through their prayers. Prayer is an important part of a successful adoption journey, and each family is encouraged to use it to make it through.

Having confidence in your prayer means holding on to the promises that God has made. It means reaching deep within yourself, putting your doubts aside, and exercising faith that your petitions will not be in vain. Spiritual strength is more valuable than most realize. At its core are hope, love, and faith. Knowing that God can help you and that He can give you the desires of your heart can provide a family with everything that they need to have the patience to wait until they receive their blessing.

One day, your family may be blessed with a child. When it happens, you will be eternally grateful. You will bask in the beauty of your new child and your family. But, you will also have grown, individually and as a family, because you will have a much greater belief and confidence in God, and the power of prayer.

Adoptive Families Needed for Adoption Situations

2011-11-29T14:36:00.001-08:00

Lifetime Adoption is currently seeking adoptive families for the following adoption situations:

We are seeking an a couple to adopt an African American baby boy due in January. His birthmother would like to receive updates on him via letters and photos after placement. She is open to placing with an adoptive family who already have children, just as long as they have no more than two children currently.

Another birthmother is expecting a Caucasian/Hispanic baby in May. She is hoping to place with a Caucasian or Hispanic married couple who are Catholic and will be first-time parents through adoption. A couple who reside in Texas would be ideal. She states no drug, cigarette, or alcohol usage during her pregnancy.

Finally, we’re seeking a married couple to adopt an African American baby due in May. The birthmother would prefer to place with an African American married couple who are currently serving in the military. A loving, open-minded couple who are Christians would be ideal. She's open to placing with a couple who already have children. She states no drug, cigarette, or alcohol use during this pregnancy.

Please take the first step towards adoption today! Fill out Lifetime Adoption's free and secure application to adopt as your first step towards being presented to this situation or other similar adoption situations. If you have any questions about Lifetime Adoption's successful nationwide domestic adoption program, please call us at (530) 432-7373, or you can also reach us via Skype at the screen name "lifetimefamilysupport."

Prayer for Adoption This Thanksgiving

2011-11-22T08:58:00.001-08:00

"Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petitions, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God."

-Philippians 4:6

This special adoption prayer is to the Lord, that He will keep and guard those hoping to adopt, as well as those impacted by adoption. As we gather to rejoice this Thanksgiving, we pray He will keep a special eye over the babies, children, and birth families that we work with at Lifetime Adoption Center.

Dear Lord,

Protect all we know, love, and come in contact with from harm and from any sadness today.

Let us see the true blessings in each of our lives, the blessings that you have provided at this moment in time. Help us take time out from our normal activities to reflect on our blessings with a thankful heart and a promise of continued blessing in the season before us.

If some of us hurt, please heal our hearts.

If some of us are impatient, grant us and those around us patience.

If we find ourselves with condescending people, fill them with kindness.

If we feel our lives are lacking, show us how to give to those with even less.

You know the hearts of adoptive families, birth mothers, and the precious children that unite them. Grant them all peace for today and hope for tomorrow as we pause for our Thanksgiving celebrations.

Thank you for your blessings today and all year long,

Amen

We pray you'll have a safe Thanksgiving with your loved ones and blessing and a joy will pour out to you all.

Our Adoption Blessing

2011-11-15T10:00:00.001-08:00

I just received this wonderful update from an adoptive couple who adopted their son through Lifetime Adoption:

""Hello Veronica!

We hope you are well. We just wanted to share an update on Jalen Michael. He is just about one week shy of nine months and is getting so BIG! What's even bigger is his personality! He says "mama," "dada," "papa," "nana," "baba" (for bottle), "eat," "more" (for more food), "hi," "boo," "Elmo" (his favorite), and his newest is, "What's up", which is what his Uncle Gabe asks him every time he sees him!

He is the life of every outing and party, and he loves to people watch and give high five's! He's pulling himself up and we think he's going to bypass crawling all together! Jalen is ready for Halloween as papa recently showed him how to scare people...Jalen giggles with their surprise reaction!

Some real exciting news is that this summer we met two other Lifetime families at an event held by our home study provider. It was awesome meeting the Lifetime adoptive mother who gave support and prayers when I was awaiting the arrival of Jalen. Jalen fell in love with both Lifetime girls! He's such a flirt!

We keep you in our prayers along with all the other Lifetime Angels as well as the waiting families and especially our birthmother. We send our birthmother quarterly photos and she recently wrote us that she loves to look at all the photos at the end of her day.

Jalen Michael is truly a gift from GOD and his timing was perfect!

God Bless you all,
Michael & Rosemary"

Find out how you can adopt the baby of your dreams by calling Lifetime Adoption at (530) 432-7373. They are also available on Skype at the Screen Name "Lifetimefamilysupport."

National Adoption Awareness Month – Remember to Pray for Adoption

2011-11-08T10:09:00.001-08:00

November is National Adoption Awareness Month!

Celebrate Adoption this November through your church or Christian community by hanging this adoption prayer reminder on bulletin boards or around the office. Or, feel free to use the image in a slide during church services to remember those touched by adoption in prayer. Let us know how you find ways to honor adoption this month!Please click on the image below to download a printable PDF of this prayer card!

Adoption Contracts: Knowledge is Power

2011-11-01T09:03:00.000-07:00

"Knowledge is power. Information is liberating. Education is the premise of progress, in every society, in every family."
– Kofi Annan

We're familiar with the phrase 'knowledge is power'. Truth be told, while we are familiar with this adage, we often forget to apply it in our everyday lives. This is especially true when it comes to reading and understanding important documents and contracts. We just run through the pages or give a cursory glance at the contents, before signing on the dotted line. Some don't even do that!

The adoption process can be quite challenging and time-consuming. Prospective parents often are focused on the outcome – to bring their baby home. And that's perfectly natural. Couples who have gone through unsuccessful assisted reproductive treatments like IUI, IVF, or ICSI suddenly have the hope of bringing home a baby of their own. They are excited and anxious at the same time and their emotions are understandable. But, the adoption process requires couples to spend time with adoption professionals, reading through the adoption contract to understand the terms of the adoption process.

If you have trouble paying attention to anything in print, you may have to take it up with your school! From grade school to college, many students just go through the motions of reading and writing, creating a veritable treasure trove of misinformation such as:

a) In Guinessis, the first book of the Bible, Adam and Eve were created from an apple tree.
b) Moses went up on Mount Cyanide to get the ten commandments; he died before he ever reached Canada
c) Socrates died from an overdose of wedlock
d) History calls people Romans because they never stayed in one place for very long.
e) The pyramids are a range of mountains between France and Spain.

While it may be very funny to read, we can all learn something from this – we must spend time in preparation when we are faced with life-changing decisions and we surely need to pay attention to what we read!

Micky and Ellen were eager to jump right into adoption after five rounds of unsuccessful IVF. They signed up with the first adoption professional they found and hurriedly began preparing for their baby. Two years later, they were weary of waiting and started to ask questions of their professional, mainly why it was taking so long. What they learned was that their agency only performed adoptions in their home state of Alabama, and there were many waiting couples to adopt on their list. They were completing about five or six adoptions per year and had close to 25 couples waiting.

Was this information in their contract? Not in so many words but had they taken the time to read their agreement, they would have realized that the average wait was four to six years and that couples were encouraged to pursue other adoption outreach efforts as well. Eventually, they did adopt, though not from a birthmother located by their agency. Today they are happily parenting, but do feel as though they lost the two years they were blissfully waiting, unaware of the terms and expectations of their local agency.

If your adoption is not complete and you have not read your adoption contract yet, I strongly recommend picking it up right now and spending time reading it. Don't try to read it in between work or when you are mentally occupied with other things. You have to be mentally present when you read the contract. Ensure that both you and your spouse understand the entire terms of the adoption contract. A poorly read contract may cause you a lot of confusion and frustration in your adoption journey.

Beware of adoption professionals with no contract. With no agreement, no formal relationship, and no official document, there is no responsibility to help you see your adoption dreams become a reality. Similarly, beware of anyone who does not give you ample time to read the contract and have an independent review with your own attorney if you do not understand any of the terms.

If you have any doubts or questions, get in touch with your adoption professional right away. It is always better to be safe than sorry!

Adoption Webinar: Get Answers to Your Adoption Questions

2011-10-25T09:34:00.000-07:00

Please join us tonight for an adoption webinar, and get answers to adoption questions such as:

• What are birthmoms like?

• How long does it take?

• Is there an age limit?

• What if I already have kids?

• What is open adoption?

• Are there grants or payment options? ...and more!

Every parent thinking about adopting has questions about what to expect and how to be successful. Bring YOUR questions on Tuesday, October 25th to Lifetime's LIVE Question & Answer Webinar.

Register today to attend. We'll begin at:
5pm Pacific Time
6pm Mountain Time
7pm Central Time
8pm Eastern Time

You'll not only benefit from the answers Lifetime has for your own adoption questions, but will learn from the questions of others on the call.

Once you register, you'll immediately receive an email with the link or number to attend live on Tuesday, October 25th. Here is the link to register: https://www3.gotomeeting.com/register/985518030

You may attend by PHONE or ONLINE from a computer, or your Smart Phone. To attend using your iPhone or Droid download a free webinar app. (Please refer to your personal data plan to find out if charges may apply to attend from your cell phone using this app.)

Please join us LIVE! In honor of National Adoption Awareness Month coming soon in November, we'll be giving away PRIZES at random during the webinar. You must be present to win, so please set a reminder and plan to attend! We look forward to your questions!

Renewed Hope and Life After International Adoption has Failed

2011-10-18T12:17:00.000-07:00

Thefact of international adoption is that it is a completely uncertain territoryfor adoptive families. We in the adoption community saw the closing ofGuatemalan adoptions several years ago, leaving many families frozen in time,unable to move forward with their adoption plans, yet unable to regain theiradoption funds to move forward into an adoption elsewhere. Many of thesefamilies were already engaged in specific adoption plans of a specific child,only waiting for approval to travel and bring their child or children home.Families were devastated at the news of the Guatemalan government no longerallowing adoptions to leave its borders.

Inrecent months and years, we have seen many Asian, Eastern European, and evenAfrican countries also close their doors to American adoptive families. We haveseen severe restriction of the families they will allow to adopt, changingtheir requirements mid-adoption, again, leaving families in the lurch, unableto regain their adoption funds.

Mostfamilies moving forward into adoption are at a time in their lives where theyare truly ready and prepared for parenting. They’ve waited and planned, and nowmany families have seen precious time wasted, and have suffered severedisappointment with the news from their agency that they will no longer be ableto adopt from their country of choice, or that there will be a 4-5 year waitfor a child. This is devastating to adoptive families, especially when theyhave already been matched with a specific child.

Internationaladoption has always been risky and not for the faint of heart, as no adoptionis. It takes the strong heart of a mother and a father to forge ahead into theunknown, with nothing but faith and a plan to bring their son or daughter home.

Thereare other options many families have never allowed themselves the opportunityto consider. Right here in the United States, we see thousands of women incrisis pregnancies calling out for help, hoping someone out there will bewilling to bring their baby home and raise him or her as their own.

Adoptivefamilies have much to consider when choosing their adoption path. Many arehesitant about domestic adoption, because most birthmothers in the US seekfamilies willing to at least share letters and photos after the adoption. Manybirthmothers seek a family willing to have an in-person visit with the family,maybe once a year for just a few hours at a time in a neutral location. Becauseof fear, adoptive families miss out on these great situations, where the factis that it is possible for the birthmother to care about the child, and yetwant to choose a stable loving family with the desire to parent. If a family isopen to contact with a birthmother after the adoption, they significantlylessen their wait time, sometimes bringing their babies home in less than ayear.

Adoptivefamilies wonder: Why does a birthmother wish to remain in contact, if shedoesn’t even want to parent the child? The answer is multi-faceted.Overwhelmingly, many birthmothers desire contact simply because they would likethat peace of mind in knowing they made the right choice. If a birthmother hasreceived quality support and care in her adoption process, she understands thatan adoption is permanent, and has no desire to take part in the parenting.Birthmothers who seek an open or semi-open adoption want to ensure that theirbirthchild never has to search for their biological family, or search foranswers. Birthmothers can ensure they are always available for medical needsand information, and should the adoptive parents need to contact her, they havekept the lines of communication open.

Manytimes with open and semi-open adoption, the family and the birthmother haveexchanged some form of information before the baby is born. They usually areable to meet in the hospital for the first time at the birth of the child. Bythis time, in most cases, the birthmother and adoptive family have formed abond. They are both there for the same exciting event, to bring this new littlelife out into the world. They are both there for the same reasons, to make surethis little boy or girl is raised with all the goodness in life that a childcould ever hope for. After an amazing event like this, where a birthmotherplaces her child directly into the waiting arms of the family – most adoptiveparents can not imagine walking away and not keeping in touch with thebirthmother. If they were hesitant about birthmothers before, they are nowcompletely in awe of the blessing this birthmother has given them. They areamazed at the courage and beauty in the birthmother’s choice to willinglyentrust them with their new child. They are overjoyed that they now have theirbaby in their arms, and the last thing they want is for their birthmother to beforgotten.

Thereis so much to consider with a domestic adoption. Touching the life of abirthmother is one of the major blessings that come with no other type ofadoption available. There is also far less travel and expense involved. Mostdomestic adoptions can take far less time than international adoptions, and theprocess is streamlined because you are working only with American entities andlaws. With domestic adoption, when a birthmother voluntarily seeks an adoptionplan, overwhelmingly infants are born completely healthy and with few medicalcomplications. In some domestic adoption programs, adoptive families even haveaccess to the medical records of the birthmother and the baby.

Yes,there are still unknowns with domestic adoption – but they are far fewer theunknowns and uncertainty of international adoption. Adoptive families who havebeen closed out of their international adoption plans, or who have been toldthe wait will be several years, can have renewed hope in exploring a domesticadoption.

Formore information, please visit www.LifetimeAdoption.com. To seek answers toyour specific questions about domestic adoption, and to see if a domesticadoption is right for you, please call 530-432-7373.

Mayyou be blessed as you endeavor to seek the baby or child that God has meant foryour family!

God's Blessings Come in 'Can-s' – Yes, You CAN Trust Him For Your Miracle!

2011-10-10T09:33:00.000-07:00

For He has regarded the lowly state of His maidservant;For behold, henceforth all generations will call me blessed.
-Luke 1:48

This was what Mary said when she met Elizabeth in Judah. Mary was probably 19 years old when the angel of the Lord met and proclaimed to her that she would bear the Son of God. The angel also announced that her relative Elizabeth has conceived despite her barrenness, for "with God nothing will be impossible" (Luke 1:37). It is a wonderful scene where these two women meet. Elizabeth was old and barren, yet with child, while Mary was very young and pregnant without 'knowing a man'. We see God's hand in both these miracles that defy the natural order of things.

Most of us suffering from infertility may wonder why God is putting us through this trauma, when He can heal us 'right away' and make us pregnant. Well, if there's one thing we need to know about God, it's this: He cannot be confined in a neat box! He has many acts up His sleeve and is the sovereign God who decides how and when to answer our prayers. There are times when God will do the unexpected and take us on a path we never even dreamed of.

I believe the person who said "The longest journey of any person is the journey inward", had a long walk with God! Our struggles with infertility can be a wonderful opportunity to get rid of all the spiritual, mental, and emotional infections and dirt that have slowed us down in our walk of faith. When we trust in, rely on, and put our confidence in the Rock of Ages, we embark on an exciting journey that will take us to the place of complete rest, peace, and joy in Christ.

God works in ways that are beyond our comprehension. Sometimes, we may not like what He has planned for us. But, if we believe that we are in His thoughts and He has good plans that give us a hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11), we will welcome any surprise He throws at us. Christian adoption may be one of the surprises God has in store for infertile couples. He knows the inborn yearning in every woman to become a mother and He understands this feeling. Adoption may be His way of meeting your need to become a mother and giving a life of comfort, security, love, and faith to a child who needs you, more than you need him or her.

For my journey to motherhood, this is exactly how God worked. I lost pregnancy after pregnancy in an attempt to become a mother the only way I knew how. When I finally received the news that a successful pregnancy was not going to be an option, I prayed that God would remove this great desire to be a mother if it was not in His plans for my life. It was then, that He opened a window in my darkest days of desperation, as if to say “Mardie, simply follow MY path for your life.” God’s path led me through an adoption journey that blessed me not only with my son, but also with the work I do today through Lifetime Adoption Center. Two miracles that would not have existed for me had I not followed God’s leading.

If you are confused about adoption or your journey to parenthood, I encourage you to spend some time today in prayer. Ask God to show you what to do and lead you in your decisions concerning adoption. Believe that one day you will have a child who will rise up and call you blessed!

Christian Couples Needed for Adoption Situations

2011-09-20T13:20:00.000-07:00

Lifetime Adoption is in need of loving Protestant married couples interested in adopting newborns and occasionally older children nationwide. Our clients are seeking families who are active in their church.

We are low in families in the Nevada area. One of our adoption situations is a Caucasian birthmother who would like to maintain contact through letters and photos. She states no substance usage throughout her pregnancy, and needs minimal assistance with medical expenses.

Another birthmother is expecting a full African American baby in December and would like to place with an African American or bi-racial couple. There is a history of bi-polar disorder in her family, and birthmother states that she manages her bi-polar disorder through medication.

Currently we have a number of birthmothers due in October and November who are hoping to look at families ASAP. You may view our Birthparents Seeking Adoptive Families page online to learn about more situations.

To apply to adopt through Lifetime, please visit www.LifetimeAdoption.com/apply and fill out our free application.

Post-Adoption Depression Syndrome – You Are Not Alone!

2011-09-15T12:55:00.000-07:00

"Unhappy Christians are, to say the least, a poor recommendation for the Christian faith.… A depressed Christian is a contradiction in terms."

—D. Martyn Lloyd-Jones

Depression is one of the most debilitating emotional disorders of our culture today. It is so prevalent that one out of every four Americans is said to suffer from it. New mothers are known to suffer from Post-Partum depression, which can make them moody, hysterical, angry, and in extreme cases, even suicidal. Well, if you thought you don't have to deal with these feelings because you adopted your child, I am going to burst your bubble. Post-Adoption Depression Syndrome (PADS) is just as real as post-partum depression and just as weakening.

If you are a believer in Christ and a recently turned adoptive parent, do you think you are immune to depression? Or, do you believe that Christians can't be affected by these life changes? Well, listen to some of the most famous leaders of the Christian faith and you might change your mind:

Cursed be the day in which I was born!—Jeremiah
It is enough! Now, Lord, take my life.—Elijah
Conflicts without, fears within … depressed.—Paul the apostle, in 2 Corinthians 7:6
I had my temptations attending me.… Sometimes I should be assaulted with great discouragement therein, fearing that I should not be able to speak the Word at all … at which times I should have such a strange faintness and strengthlessness seize upon my body that my legs have scarce been able to carry me.—John Bunyan

It is clear that even believers come under the attack of this emotional disorder and we must use the Word of God to renew and refresh us mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. Some of the common driving forces of such depression in adoptive parents include the need to care for another person day and night, increased financial strain, lack of personal space and time, and other changes that happen when a baby is introduced into a family. Sometimes, it can simply be the low that comes after the high of achieving an important milestone, namely, a successful adoption.

I want you to know that these feelings are normal. It doesn’t mean that you aren’t happy or that adopting was a wrong decision. The depression is simply a normal reaction to often sudden and major life changes.

A number of years ago, I helped Ken and Annie, a young Christian couple, adopt their first baby. They were chosen after a brief wait by a birthmother who was due relatively soon. The adoption match was an exciting whirlwind of travel arrangements, nursery preparation, attorney plans, and much more. All went smoothly and Annie was enjoying every day back home as a stay-at-home mother.

When she called one afternoon in tears, my first thought was that something had happened to the baby. “No, no,” she said, “Jackson is wonderful. It’s me. I am so miserable. I don’t think I can do this!”

We talked through her feelings and I helped her find someone in her area who could help her. Her feelings were quite typical for a new mother struggling with sleepless nights, overwhelming responsibility, a husband who wasn’t sure how to help her through this, and a sense of disappointment for not feeling sheer joy every minute of the day.

Annie found the help she needed to not only balance the responsibilities and the emotions, but also to realize that becoming a mother doesn’t “fix” anything. It doesn’t complete you. It doesn’t give you someone to love you. It takes a lot of work and giving more of yourself than you’ve ever been asked to give before. Is it any wonder that Annie needed help?

If you suspect you may be suffering from PADS, I encourage you to seek help from a Christian counselor. There is nothing wrong or shameful in seeking a bit of professional help to get you through this rough season of life. Include your spouse in your counseling sessions to improve your relationship with each other.
Above all, turn to God in your hour of need. If you feel like you are falling apart, let God provide the strength, guidance, and wisdom you need to get through this situation. Connect to God every day through daily prayer and meditation while seeking the professional guidance you need.

Are Adoptive Families 'True' Families?

2011-09-09T09:29:00.001-07:00

What does the Bible have to say about adoption? Can anadoptive family ever be like a real family? Is this right in the eyes of God?These may be some of the questions troubling you as you contemplate Christianadoption. Surprisingly, the Bible has a lot to say about adoption! Let's take alook at God's view of a family unit and His plan for orphans and abandonedchildren:

Adoption is legal(and Biblical)

Yes, we all know that there are several laws and regulationsin most countries that make adoption legal. But, did you know that adoption existed in Biblical times as a legaloption? According to the Word of God, the adopted child enjoyed the privilegeof becoming a legitimate heir to the father's estate and was treated as oneamong the family. The adopted child was treated as someone 'born into' the newfamily and as someone who has just started a new life!

There are many examples of adoption in the Bible: Esther'sadoption by her cousin Mordecai, Moses' adoption by Pharaoh's daughter, andJoseph's acceptance of Jesus as his son. God even adopted the entire tribe ofLevi as His own. The Bible indicates that there is no difference in the rolesand responsibilities of parents and children, whether the child is biologicalor adopted. Adoptive families are 'real' families in the eyes of God and in theeyes of law.

The realities ofadoption

Children brought into families through adoption are nodifferent legally than a biological child. However the relationship and similarities that develop are typicallynothing short of miraculous. In my ownadoption, my son couldn’t look more different from me – he’s over 6 feet tall,very slender, and quite fair. Yet thetraits we have in common are astonishing – similar personalities, habits,laughs, and even just a spirit of kindness towards “the least of these”. These traits are even some that I don’t sharewith many of my biological relatives! When I look at him, I know deep in my soul that God intended us for eachother.

Spiritualsignificance of adoption

All believers are children of God and they are heirs throughadoption (Rom. 8:15–17, 23; Gal. 4:4–7). This makes eachof us a part of God's adoptive family. God uses adoption as a beautifulmetaphor to describe His relationship with those who believe in Him and Hisresurrection. This gives us the privilege of calling Him "Abba",which is Aramaic for Daddy and is a Jewish expression of closeness of childrenwith their fathers. In other words, a Christian's identity is this: I amadopted by God (Eph 1:5). As believers we enjoy the rights, privileges,inheritance of biological children. This is by the law of grace.

The same grace is now available to adoptive families. Everychild is a blessing from God (Ps. 128:3) and Christian adoption enables you tobuild a home with God's Word as the foundation. Any family that is built onGod's Word will stand the test of time and will be used to extend His Kingdom,whether biological or adoptive!

Common Adoption Myths, Dispelled

2011-08-18T12:59:00.001-07:00

Much of what people know of adoption comes from the media or our experience with adopted kids growing up. So is it any wonder that so many adoption myths still are believed as fact? Becoming educated about adoption will help you be equipped to separate adoption facts from fiction.

Myth: There are no healthy infants available for adoption in the U.S.

The Truth: There are tens of thousands of families each year that adopt healthy, newborn babies through adoption. Many of them are through open adoption, where the biological mother, often called the birth mother, may have chosen the family herself. Domestic adoption is a very viable option for families who need help building their families.

Visit OpenAdoption.com to learn about some more common adoption myths.

What is An Adoption Home Study?

2011-08-15T16:16:00.000-07:00

Are you just starting to look into adoption & wondering what a "home study" is all about? This informative article shares how hopeful adoption families can best prepare for their home study with a social worker:

What is An Adoption Home Study?

Why are Newborn Babies Murdered or Left to Die?

2011-08-06T09:07:00.000-07:00

This week we learn about a mentally-ill woman, Kalina, who pleaded guilty to murder in connection with the deaths of five newborn babies. She secretly delivered these babies in her bathtub at home, and then hid them in her closet for their remains to be found years later. A few months ago, we learned about a baby who was thrown eight feet down a garbage chute into a trash compactor in a Brooklyn apartment, just after birth by the mother. Luckily this infant was discovered alive, but that is not always the case.

As disturbing as these incidents are, they are reality. Nobody knows the exact number of newborn babies abandoned or murdered every year, although some experts in the field estimate approximately 57 infants a day are abandoned across the country. Statistics also show that most abandoned babies are never found alive. The senseless deaths that occur when babies are abandoned need never happen. In an effort to prevent such tragedies, state officials enacted the Abandoned Infant Protection Act in 2000, which allows new parents to avoid prosecution if they leave their unwanted babies someplace safe such as a fire station or hospital within five days after giving birth. Yet, there are many other alternatives available for mothers who find themselves pregnant and unable to care for a child.

We do not clearly understand why some mothers abandon or harm their babies, but feelings of denial, lack of education, and economic issues are thought to play a large part in the problem.

One reason pregnant women may resort to such drastic measures is because they are uneducated about the options available. My book, So I was Thinking about Adoption, is available at no-cost and provides information to help birth mothers make a decision about the future of their baby. The book includes support from women who have been in similar situations and numerous resources to help women make an adoption plan if they choose to go that direction.

Economic factors also play a role in a mother choosing to discard her child. More than 80% of teen moms in the U.S. are on welfare. These women may be unaware of some of the financial assistance that adoption services may provide during their pregnancy including: assistance with housing, financial assistance with medical bills, maternity clothing and more.

Another possible reason for discarding unwanted babies may be that some pregnant women hide their pregnancy from families and friends. It may be culturally taboo, an embarrassment, a decision to avoid confrontation in an abusive home, or a desperate attempt at hiding an affair. This was the case for Kalina who admits to hiding each of these pregnancies from her husband as the children were conceived with another man. Regardless of their reasons, these women need to be informed about the possibility of adoption as an alternative to abandoning or harming their babies.

If you or someone you know needs confidential help, please call the National Adoption Answer Line at 1-800-923-6602 24 hours a day. Help us save a child!

Angels in Our Mist

2011-08-03T14:17:00.000-07:00

My teen daughter and I were giggling as we walked out of a department store with two shopping bags full of new clothes. A young man stepped out of the shadows near the entrance and asked if we could give him some money for food.

"I'm sorry, not tonight," I responded as I kept walking.

It was November and the cool evening had set in, the chill was around us. I thought about my words to the man and I immediately was convicted. As we crossed the street, I shared with my daughter how I felt and she admitted that she felt the same.

“Let’s look for some food for him,” she said.

We both just felt there was a reason he asked us. There are so many that ask for a handout, but this young man seemed different, familiar in a way.

Seeing a Togo’s sandwich shop nearby, I turned back and called in his direction, motioning with my hand to the thin figure across the street. “Come join us and I will buy you a sandwich with us.”

He pointed to himself as if surprised. I nodded and he hurried across the street to join us. Shyly, he asked if we had recognized him as he banjo player from the area. Admitting that no, we didn’t as we were from out of the area, he told us that his banjo was in the shop and normally he would be out playing it. He took off his beanie and we walked into the restaurant together.

He was thinner and much younger than I had first thought, barely old enough to shave, but with very caring eyes. I asked him what kind of sandwich he’d like and after a long silent pause, I made a few suggestions. Pointing to the refrigerator I asked him to pick out something to drink as my daughter followed suit. He stood back, humbled, but picked a carton of chocolate milk, declining my offer to get an additional drink for tomorrow.

As we waited for our sandwiches to be made, he started chatting a bit. He had been traveling for two years after leaving Seattle, where he’d been born and raised. “In the morning I am able to get breakfast at the shelter,” he shared, “but there wasn’t room for me to stay there tonight.”

When I asked where he slept, he responded by smiling and pointing toward the ceiling, “I sleep under the stars”

He said that he missed his banjo, it was one way he made some money, by playing on the street. He fluttered his fingers as if playing it in mid-air. He looked so young, with clear eyes, so different from other homeless men I have helped.

As I listened to him talk, I found myself thinking of my own son at that age. I felt for a moment that he was family and that God had put us in this place and time for a reason. He was someone’s son and for a few minutes, I was able to care for him as if he were my own child. He rambled quietly, telling me, how the police had moved him out the area twice and some people thought he was crazy for traveling so much. But I saw a hungry, young men in front of me. He wasn’t asking for anything special,

Giving him his sandwich and chips, I told him we had to go but encouraged him to stay in the restaurant where it was warm and enjoy his food. He thanked us and as we left, I shook his hand and handed him a few dollars I had in my pocket. God bless you dear.

Walking eight blocks to our car, we passed many other homeless men asking for help, eating from take out containers, and going through trash cans. None were as touching to us as the young man.

My daughter and I agreed that we never know when God places someone in our life. As we got closer to the car, our feet were frozen and we had a small taste of what our friend would experience that night. We rummaged the car for snacks, towelettes, toiletries, and the warm blanket from the back seat and drove back to Togo’s, hoping he was still there.

Do not forget to entertain strangers, for by so doing, some people have entertained angels without knowing it. -Heb. 13:2

As we turned the corner in our warm car, we could see him inside, sharing the sandwich with another homeless man. I dashed inside to offer him our blanket and a small bag of goodies. He was happy and said he was good for a blanket but he would defiantly find someone that needed it.

We left the little town all dressed in holiday cheer with a reminder of how blessed we are. We also made a commitment that as long as we could help others, we would. By the grace of God it could be us in his place.

Take Action
What do you do when you see someone in need? Could you keep a simple Blessings Bag in your car? I now do just that, keeping a bag of easy to open food items, a blanket, towelettes, bottled water, napkins, pen, writing pad, Vitamin C, and a pair of socks. I have found it very rewarding to have these and then depend on God to put someone in my day that needs them. I have seen more than I want of children in poverty and women desperate to make money to survive.

With more and more people and families finding themselves on the streets, you will have more opportunities to bless someone in need. I find that most items can be found in your own shelves and closets, and dollar stores are perfect places to stock up for your Blessing Bag.

To learn safety tips while helping the homeless, read Mardie Caldwell's article Serving Those in Need: Opportunities and Safety Tips.

Serving Those in Need: Opportunities and Safety Tips

2011-08-02T15:50:00.000-07:00

I enjoy the opportunity to help those who are less fortunate, but I am always mindful of keeping myself and those with me safe. It's easy to serve others, but important to find the right opportunities for you and to ensure your personal safety is not at great risk.

Don’t give rides to anyone when you are alone. Be alert at all times, many homeless people are street savvy and know how to tear at your heart. Don’t wear jewelry or carry a hand bag. Don’t flash cash or credit cards.

I like to do work in teams. I prefer to help women and children and when doing so, remember to be humble yourself. I don’t give money but instead choose food and household items that they can carry or use. Ask don’t assume they need it.

Some good phases I learned are…

I am getting some food. Can I get some for you too?
I just bought some items and realized my family has already eaten. Can you use them?
Carry back some food and say "I had extra, would you like some?"
I would appreciate your help. I am cleaning out my closet, and wanted to see if you could help me find someone that can use these items.
My favorite is I don’t want to have a garage sale and would love it if you could take some of these things off my hands.
My husband will have a fit if I bring anything more home. Can you use any of these?

No one that truly needs help wants to ask for it. People don’t want to feel worse than they are, so keep it humble and quiet. You are asking them a favor in a sense.

Don’t take children to all men’s shelters, but do include children in giving and sharing. My children and some of my friends’ children have joined me in setting up “free” tables at our local Friday night suppers for the local homeless and low income at a local church. We set up a few tables and add clean, folded clothes, household items, toiletries, shoes, socks, books and new unused gifts. We take shopping bags and treat all as if they are at Nordstrom’s shopping, helping them match up clothing and sizes then bagging up their goodies. It is fun and the teens love to get involved.

We have seen many families come in without shoes or socks on the children. They are so happy for gently used items. Other nice things are perfumes that you don’t like or towels you might not need. One very young girl, barely reaching the table top, peered over and asked me “Is this all free? I want to get something for my mama.” It is truly more fun and rewarding than anything I can remembering doing.

Find out where in your community you can help. It helps clean out your closets, teaches the gift of giving to our kids, and brings us to a sense of appreciation.

Some of the best giving I have done is anonymous, that is giving to someone in need by going to a door of an apartment or home where there are children’s toys and just ringing the doorbell and saying “I was told to bring these bags to you. Happy Thanksgiving!” (or God Bless, Merry Christmas, etc.) And then just leave. I don’t give my name but I do always smile and say a prayer to ask God to direct me where to leave my Blessing Bag.

Kids love to feel like they are helping and this generation of kids needs to know what it is to give and to see others that don’t have the same life as other have. Many teens today are lacking these lessons and the opportunity to help is far better than lecturing. Let them see first hand and get them involved, but with adult supervision at all time, at any age.

I have also called my friends and asked if I could “borrow” their kids to help at the dinners. What can you do now and each month for just 90 minutes to help others in need?

If you can’t do this yourself or there isn’t an organization near you that helps those in need, consider donating items or funds to a charity like The Lifetime Adoption Foundation.

Your donation goes 100% to the recipient, and all items donated can be specified to be given to women and children. Other high ticket items such as art work, vehicles, or jewelry can be sold with all proceeds going to help replenish the food closet or restock supplies of towels, kids clothing, blankets, socks, and toiletries.

Please send all donated items to:

Lifetime Adoption Foundation
Birthmother Blessings
17860 Cattle Drive
Rough and Ready California 95975

You may also visit LifetimeAdoptionFoundation.org to donate online through PayPal or a bank card at any time.

What cannot be achieved in one lifetime will happen when one lifetime is joined to another.
-Harold Kushner

3 Simple Ways to Check the Adoption Professional’s Reputation

2011-07-28T15:57:00.000-07:00

How do you know an adoption program or professional is reputable? Here are three easy tools to help you decide if you can trust the adoption professional you are considering.

There are bound to be unhappy campers with just about any organization, so you want to be sure and gather ALL of your information, and assess your research as a whole. You are looking for a trend of bad reports outweighing positive reports.

Check the Better Business Bureau rating: In just a few clicks you can learn where the company operates from, what year the organization first began, and if there have been any complaints filed against the company and how or if those were resolved. An organization is graded on their performance based on how long they’ve been operating, how many complaints have been filed, and how those issues were resolved. You should be hoping for an A Plus rating for any adoption professional you are planning to trust with your precious time and resources.
Reach out to adoptive families who have used their services: Most adoption professionals will be willing to share contact information of other families who have used their services. You want to be sure to request this information, contact the families, and hear back from the families before entering into any contract or submitting any fees. Many times, prior clients can share very useful information that may not have been volunteered by the adoption professional. You can also seek out adoptive family references online through support groups or chat rooms. You want to be wary of any negative reviews, as there are always going to be spoilsports who don’t follow a program and don’t get the desired results – you want to look at both sides of the story. Be sure and ask any family if they would use the organization again, or if there’s anything they would do differently.
Observe the personal interaction and service you receive from the organization. Do you have to wait days or weeks for a response to a phone call or email? Do they seem to lack basic phone etiquette or customer service skills? Do they follow through with sending over any documents or resources they’ve promised (such as adoptive family references)? Do you feel they sincerely care about families and birthmothers? Are they willing to listen to you and address your concerns, or do they always rush you off the phone (this may signal that they are short staffed or have made recent cutbacks to staff)? Are they willing to learn more about your adoption needs and see if you’re a good fit for their program BEFORE fees are involved?

In the end, your gut feeling and spiritual discernment will lead you in the direction that is best for your family. Take your time, and when you’ve decided on the perfect adoption professional for you, move forward and don’t let anything stand in your way!

Inspirational Thought For Adoptive Parents

2011-07-22T09:05:00.000-07:00

Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go.
-Joshua 1:9 NIV

Trying to find a birth mother...Completing the endless paperwork...Finding the money to make it all happen. When I was in the process of adopting, I became discouraged and felt at times like it would never happen.

It was then that I found this special scripture that was so comforting to me. Some days I would repeat it out loud, hoping it would sink in. I even wrote it on a small card and carried it in the pocket of my jeans, reading it throughout the day. That was before PDA’s and computer reminders that can schedule a pop up on your cell phone.

My suggestion (and what I do today) is to take advantage of the technology available. Use it to add inspirational thoughts or scriptures that will pop up on your cell during your day and encourage and strengthen you. For me, I have them sent directly to my cell phone and on my online calendar. I hope you will find how amazing it is that the timing of the message is right at a time when I need it most.

God bless and remember to "be strong and courageous."

Adoption Updates on Facebook

2011-07-19T12:41:00.000-07:00

Did you know sometimes married couples choose adoption for a child they weren't ready for?

Watch a video of the history of the Lifetime Adoption Foundation. Lifetime Adoption Foundation is dedicated to the development of healthy and fulfilling futures. Birth mothers deserve the opportunity for a future after adoption in the same way they have ensured a healthy future for their child.

Your Adoption Journey - Invite God to Be Your Travel Mate

Always remember that adoption is truly a matter of the heart...

How a Birthmother Chooses an Adoptive Family

2011-07-16T13:04:00.000-07:00

Wonder how a birthmom chooses adoptive family? Last night a birthmom explained "I just kept going back to their profile, they stood out right away. As I read the others I thought, 'I like these, but I really like this other family.' It was like once I found them I knew they had to be the one for my baby." She could choose you for a specific reason, or because she has peace you're "the right" family for her child.

To read more adoption insights like this one, visit Open Adoption on Facebook.

The Newest in Domestic Adoption on Facebook

2011-07-08T15:45:00.000-07:00

Three L’s of Adoption

Download a free report with tips to make your money go further for an adoption

Why I Chose a Single Sista to Adopt My Baby

An encouraging passage from Corinthians for those hoping to adopt

Note from a successful adoptive couple: "We Highly Recommend Lifetime Adoption!"

Four births anticipated this weekend

Open Adoption Information for Those Looking to Adopt

2011-07-06T16:19:00.000-07:00

For couples hoping to adopt, the adoption process becomes a walk of faith. This adoption article provides encouragement to those waiting to adopt.

Other helpful adoption tips and info can be found in the July issue of Adoption for Life. Adoption for Life is an online newsletter that's packed with information for adoptive parents and families hoping to adopt a baby or child. Visit www.AdoptionforLife.com to sign up for their monthly emails.

This note from adoptive couple Rich and Jennifer shares how they were "called to adoption." They have successfully adopted two sons from Lifetime Adoption.

Sale on Adoption Bracelets!

2011-07-05T14:27:00.000-07:00

This week only, get a special price when you purchase Called to Adoption and an Adoption Prayer Bracelet using coupon code FREEDOM.
Sale includes ALL bracelets, including the hot new colors for summer, Iced Tea and Sherbert!

Join the Celebration and Order Yours Today!

The Latest in Open Adoption on Facebook

2011-06-28T16:07:00.001-07:00

Check out the latest posts and news regarding adoption on Facebook:

If you know someone who is facing infertility or would like to add to their family through adoption, the new book Called to Adoption is a perfect gift! In this video, author Mardie Caldwell shares where you can purchase a copy: http://www.facebook.com/video/video.php?v=2226739868472&oid=72391093823

African American Adoptive couple Sam & Sabrina

Texas Adoptive Couple Michael & Pamela

Helping Birthmothers Placing Their Baby for Adoption

2011-06-24T16:02:00.000-07:00

Maternity clothing of all sizes needed, for women who plan to place their babies for adoption! Want to help? In this video, Mardie Caldwell shares how you can!

Adoption News on Facebook

2011-06-23T08:13:00.001-07:00

Are you a member of the social network, Facebook? You can get up-to-date adoption news, adoption stories, and view photos of newly adopted babies by visiting Facebook.com/Open.Adoption!

Here are a few of the recent trending stories:

Adoption story & photo of Jake and Tanya with their second adopted baby

New hopeful adoptive couple Paul & Summer, who can't wait to adopt a baby girl!

Patrick & Monique share their adoption story, and photo of their newly-adopted son, Alan

Adoption Website, I Could Never Give My Baby Away

2011-05-27T12:23:00.000-07:00

When asked about adoption, many women facing an unplanned pregnancy say "I could never give my baby away!" The truth is, adoption isn't giving your baby away...this new website explores that myth: ICouldNeverGiveMyBabyAway.com.

Please share this website with any pregnant women are seeking options other than abortion and parenting. www.ICouldNeverGiveMyBabyAway.com

The First Decision in Adoption: International or Domestic

2011-05-17T12:55:00.000-07:00

If you're thinking about building your family through adoption you may be weighing the options you have between international and domestic adoptions. You may have heard rumors about wait times with either choice; risks involved; or have become filled with questions about how you'll decide which to pursue.

For many, deciding to adopt internationally or within the U.S. may be one of the hardest decisions along the adoption journey. Please join us Tuesday, May 24th for an exclusive look at the most important choice you'll make to begin your adoption journey.

During this FREE Webinar you'll learn:
-Which direction will best complete your family
-Expectations within each choice
-How to decide whether to pursue international or domestic adoption
and more

This Adoption Webinar will begin Tuesday evening at:
7pm Pacific Time
8pm Central Time
9pm Mountain Time
10pm Eastern Time

It's easy to attend ONLINE or BY PHONE but you must REGISTER FIRST. When you register you'll be emailed a confirmation which will include the link to join the call online and the phone number to dial if you won't be near your computer.

If you can't wait until next week to discover what type of adoption will best suit your family contact us today: 1-800-923-6784. You can also take the first step online at www.lifetimeadoption.com/apply.

We look forward to meeting with you next Tuesday, May 24th at 7pm Pacific Time. Register soon to ensure you get into this Webinar; space is limited.

CLICK HERE TO REGISTER for this free adoption webinar. Once you're registered you can set up reminders right from the confirmation email you'll receive.

3 Ways to Make Mother's Day Special While Waiting to Adopt

2011-05-06T10:10:00.000-07:00

Give to Others
This is a wonderful opportunity to bless others who may not have a mother or may have lost a child. A card, a flower, a phone call, or just a warm hug can go a long way for someone who is hurting. And, it will help you too! For when we use or time and energy to help others, we are focused on others' needs and not or own sorrows.

Get Out of Town
It's okay not to want to go places where you will be surrounded by mothers being recognized such as church, brunch, or other events. Do something special with your significant other. Go for a hike, to the movies, or sneak away overnight. Spend the day working on a home improvement project or doing an activity that you won't be doing for a while when you have a baby in tow.

Help Birth Mothers
You may not personally know any birth mothers in your area, but remember that they are hurting today too. Through Lifetime Adoption Foundation you can help them by donating money for scholarships or physical goods, such as maternity clothes. Find away to help and make it matter!

Lifetime Foundation is currently seeking donations for new or gently used maternity pants of all sizes, and plus-sized maternity clothes. Please call 530-432-7383 to learn how you can make a tax deductible donation today.

This Mother's Day, Give Her Your Prayer

2011-04-29T10:37:00.001-07:00

Bless someone who has been touched by adoption with a Special Gift to remind her you're praying for her and her journey through adoption. Encourage her with adoption jewelry.

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Purchase one for her, AND one for yourself or a prayer partner and receive a unique, limited edition heart-shaped necklace that will recognize her adoption "For a Lifetime." (Necklace valued at $19.99. Cord with jewelry clasp included)

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Have You Waited too Long to Have a Baby?

2011-04-23T09:36:00.000-07:00

Many women today get caught up in the corporate world and wake up one
morning, realizing they have been delaying motherhood. It is not unusual to see women over 40 having children. What are the risks to the mother when having a child late in life? What extra step does a mother over 40 needs to take to maintain a healthy pregnancy?

Physical Risks to an Older Mother
A woman in her 20's and 30's is usually at the peak of her health. Aging issues such as vitamin deficiencies, heart disease, and high blood pressure are all less likely to affect an expectant mother in this age range. When women start to reach their 40's the risk factors for these diseases and many others become much higher.

An older pregnant woman who chooses to have a child is usually classified as a high-risk pregnancy because of the variety of physical ailments, which become more prominent in her age group. I remember clearly my doctor warning me about trying to get pregnant after 39 and how the risks were off the charts for me and my baby.

Other issues that may arise during pregnancy for a mother in her 40's
include: anemia, varicose veins, cancer, muscle pains, uterine fibroids, diabetes, miscarriages, stillbirth, and cesarean delivery.

Having a Healthy Baby
Pregnant moms in their 40's who are pregnant may have an uphill battle with chronic health conditions and need to set lifestyle limitations while pregnant. Most physicians advise women planning a pregnancy late in life to start adding folic acid and a prenatal vitamin to their daily routine, before trying to get pregnant.

Obstetricians treating mothers-to-be over the age of 40 highly recommend you should not drink caffeine or smoke at all. Maintaining a diet that is high in nutritional foods, vitamins and minerals is also essential months before you conceive.

Specialty Pregnancy and Monitoring Tests
It is usually much more expensive for a mother in her 40's to have a baby than it is for younger moms-to-be. Ultrasounds will be done more frequently to ensure the baby is healthy and active.

A quad marker screen is usually done to identify problems with the baby's brain, neural tissues, central nervous system, and spinal cord. This test also identifies Down syndrome which is more prevalent in women over the age of 35.

An amniocentesis involves inserting a thin needle into the amniotic fluid. This will test for birth defects such as cystic fibrosis, muscular dystrophy, sickle cell disease, and neural tube defects or Spinal bifida. This test is often performed on older expectant mothers.

Having a child can be one of the greatest joys a couple will experience in their life, but it is important for older women to be aware of the increased risk to their life and that of their child if they choose to get pregnant later in life. Often times, the risks to the mother are great and other options such as adoption or surrogacy may be a better choice to maintain the health of the mother.

The more you know, the better decisions you will make in creating a family!

How to Start the Adoption Process Today

2011-04-19T10:52:00.000-07:00

Everybody has high hopes for a perfect life. From getting the perfect job to finding and marrying the perfect mate to choosing the perfect time to have a child, everyone has their plan. However, real life is not about perfection. The reality is that sometimes in life, things do go according to our plan. But, we should not let that dictate how we live. We should always live life to the fullest, making adjustments, as needed, along the way.

For many couples, one of the biggest setbacks to their “plan” happens when they find out that they cannot conceive their own child naturally. That is usually when adoption becomes a more real option for them. However, the issue that many face is when to make that adoption happen. Despite realizing that they are at a point in their lives when they want to share their love with a child, people still seem to hold off until the “perfect time.” But, that perfect time may not happen as they think, and days turn into months, and months into years, until they finalize realize that they are still childless.

Life is about living, learning, and experiencing. It’s also about love and sharing it. Just think of how awesome life would be with a child of your own. Think of all of the wonderful things that you could see and explore as a family. Adopting a child should not be dictated by some magical formula or moment. It should be directed by your desire to build your family because for many, that’s what life is about…personal growth for themselves and those that they love. This is especially true when it comes to the challenges and rewards of raising a child.

If you are at a point in your life when you no longer want to miss out of the many amazing opportunities that you could be having with a child of your own, you should begin the adoption process. You have so much to offer a child and that child, no doubt, will have just as much to offer you. Even though the time may not be absolutely perfect or your home may not be absolutely perfect, none of that will matter once you have a child to have, to hold, and to love.

To learn more about adoption, contact an adoption coordinator at Lifetime Adoption to discuss your options and to get the process started today! Lifetime Adoption can be reached anytime from 8am-5pm Pacific Time at (530) 432-7373. The lifetime that you will share with your child will be full of absolutely perfect moments and perfect love.

New Adoption Situations

2011-04-19T09:33:00.000-07:00

Nationwide adoption center Lifetime Adoption has an online listing of potential birthmothers seeking adoptive families that is kept updated daily.

A few of Lifetime Adoption's updated potential situations include:

• Birthmother #5268-1, a Caucasian woman who is due in November and who is seeking to place her baby with a Caucasian adoptive family who do not yet have any children.

• Birthmother #5252BR-3, who is expecting a bi-racial baby and would feel most comfortable placing her with an African American or bi-racial married couple who are devout Christians.

• Birthmother #5220BR-2, who would like to place with a bi-racial married couple, or a Caucasian couple who've adopted multi-racial children.

Please fill out a free application as your first step to be presented to birthmother situations like these.

Single Black Women Please Apply

2011-04-01T13:11:00.000-07:00

Are you a single black woman? Have you dreamed of having your own child but just haven’t found the perfect mate yet? Is your biological clock ticking louder every year? Well, adoption may be an option for you. There are a lot of children out there waiting to be adopted. For some, they are a product of a not-so-perfect environment, potentially as a result of an unplanned pregnancy or from families that could no longer care for them. The one thing that they have in common is that they are need of someone to love them with a love that will last a lifetime.

Adoption centers are seeking out single black women who are ready to step into parenting roles. Historically, adoption was for married people. It was sometimes kept a “secret” because couples may have suffered from fertility issues. That was then. In our society today, adoption is considered a very real alternative to having your own biological child. It is an option that is open to adults regardless of their current marital status.

As society places less of an emphasis on marriage, some women are feeling more liberated to explore adoption on their own. Black women have been considered the bedrocks of the black community with regard to keeping their families together. They are thought to be strong women because they are generally less dependent on males and many are willing to help each other to care for their children. Some take on the roles of “godmother” or non-biological “aunts” as they embody and practice the guiding principle of the African proverb, “It takes a village to raise a child.”

Black women who are seriously considering adoption should be financially secure, emotionally stable, and ready to accept the full responsibility of handling a household and child. They can expect to build a supportive network for helping to care for a child, and be prepared to change their lifestyle to allow for proper growth and socialization for a child. Of course, unconditional love and a personal goal of providing the best possible life for a child should be driving factors in your decision. But, for any woman that desires to bring a child into her life, knowing that there will be someone that will look to you, love you, and call you that all-endearing name “Mommy”, the ends will definitely justify the means. This is especially true when adoption is the means by which you are able to fulfill your life’s dream of motherhood.

Many birthparents are open to placing their baby in a single parent home, and there are adoption centers that will be advocates for you. Some centers, such as the Lifetime Adoption, even offer adoption grants to black single adoptive mothers to help defray the cost of adoption. To find out more about this special grant, visit www.AfricanAmericanAdoptionsOnline.com. Single women needn’t worry about being turned away simply because they will parent alone.

Today, with so many children needing loving, caring people to help them to become amazing adults, the message is loud and clear: Single Black Women Please Apply.

Start Your Adoption Now With Your Tax Refund Check!

2011-03-28T10:17:00.000-07:00

If you're anticipating a tax refund check this year, it may be tempting to splurge on the latest high-tech gadget or go on a shopping spree, but in the long run, it is good to keep the future in mind when considering how to use your refund. If adopting a child is one of your goals, using your tax refund check to start the process is a great way to make use of your extra cash.

Here are five ways to use that tax refund check to start your adoption this year:

1. Payment for Adoption Services

Have you been wanting to start your journey towards adopting a baby, but just haven’t had the funds to do so? Now that you’ve received your tax refund, you are able to get started! Using a big chunk of that check towards payment for adoption services will help you start your journey. Many adoption centers will offer financing options to start, so make sure to ask if they have other payment options available.

2. Save Up for Payment of your Adoption Home Study

Start saving now for your home study fees. Once you start your adoption, you’ll need to pay for adoption-related services such as a home study. A home study is performed by a social worker; it is a combination of a written and oral description of your family and your lifestyle and inspection of where you will raise your child. Using your refund towards your home study is an excellent way to further yourself down the road to adopting a baby.

3. Set Aside Funds for Payment of your Adoption Attorney

You may consider setting aside some or all of your refund for legal services once you need them. In order to finalize the adoption, you will incur legal fees. When the time comes to obtain legal help to safely finalize your adoption, you’ll be thankful that you set aside funds ahead of time!

4. Save for Future Adoption Profile Costs

In order to present adoptive families to birthmothers, your adoption professional will need what is called an “adoption profile.” The profile is a bound booklet that describes you and your spouse, including photos, where you live, what your occupations are, why you wish to adopt, and what you like to do in your spare time. Many adoption professionals such as Lifetime Adoption have a staff member who will provide tips and guidance as you create your profile. But, you will need to budget for the cost of printing your profiles and scrapbooking supplies or software used to create it. You may consider setting aside part or all of your tax refund for this purpose, and not have to worry about it later!

5. Make a Contribution to an Adoption-Related Charity

Consider using your refund towards the cause of adoption, and get a tax deduction when you file next year! If you have your financial bases covered, consider using your refund to make a charitable contribution to help others in need. You'll feel good, and you'll be rewarded for your good deed when you file your tax return next year (charitable contributions are deductible if you itemize). One adoption charity that you can contribute to is the Lifetime Foundation. Lifetime Foundation provides grants for difficult-to-place children and scholarships for women who have placed their child for adoption. Learn how you can help at www.LifetimeFoundation.org.

It’s rewarding to be able to focus on the future knowing you have plans in place to make your adoption dreams a reality. Prioritizing adoption in your financial plans is a very important part of adoption success, both now and any time you are blessed with a little extra cash in hand!

Adopted Children and Genealogy

2011-03-23T14:02:00.000-07:00

What can we offer our adopted children about their heritage? Why is it important to have this to share with them? Where do we start to get this information for them? Is it OK to let them know they have similarities with our families; is this true or wishful thinking? What does the future hold for them - and their ancestors?

My husband was doing extensive genealogy research for our family. As he had a breakthrough, he emerged out of his office with the news that he found a string of relatives from the 1200's. My son looked down and seemed very sad. The day we located some additional news about our genealogy, it stirred thoughts he had himself. He asked more about his birth parents and their heritage. We shared what little information we had and then he said "well, I will just hang on to your genealogy mom, since I don't have any of my own." I shared that he did have his very own too and strained my brain to remember what I could from what his birth mother had said many years ago. I had foggy details of the few lone phone calls so very long ago, not much for this young man to get excited over. My heart fell to the ground for him. I fought back the tears; it was so hard to see him in this struggle that need not be. I feel getting as much information and writing down all you learn when you first adopt is priceless to our children and for their future.

I am now going over family photos from our great-grandparents, and working on framing them for our family wall. They are precious old images of my family and I handle them with the utmost care and reverence.

Since I was 30 when we adopted, our son doesn't remember my grandparents, let alone my great-grandparents. At a recent funeral of my great uncle, I shared with my son the photos of my grandmother's side of the family. We noticed how he looks so much like them, even though there was no biological tie. His blue eyes and milky white skin are very different than my Portuguese heritage of olive skin, dark hair and brown eyes.

Once when our son was only five, he found my "color in" shampoo in my shower and used it on his light hair, to look more like me. My blonde son now had red/auburn hair. Bless his heart. Adopted by a full Italian dad and Portuguese mother, he wanted to look like mommy and daddy.

Remember to gather and write down all you learn about your children's biological family when possible from birth parents, adoption professionals, the agency, foster parents or any living relatives you meet. Consider taking photos of the hospital or orphanages or other notable locations to share with them in a genealogy book just for them. It you don’t have much, think about adding photos of the state or country they were born in and notable events that occurred the year they were born.

There are many books on helping your children understand more about their culture and heritage. For waiting adoptive parents, start reading and learning before your child arrives in your home. The more you have learned and the more you see the value in this genealogy information, the more prepared you will be for the future.

A Good, Clean Start: Tips For Preparing Your Baby's Nursery

2011-03-12T13:49:00.000-08:00

Whether you are just starting your plan to adopt or if your baby is on the way home, most likely your mind is filled with all types of thoughts about how things will be once baby is actually there with you. That being said, there is also an element of uncertainty and fear, as well as disbelief that this is REALLY happening to you. After all of those years of trying to have a baby, then going through the adoption process, your dreams may actually be about to come true. If you are expecting your baby at any moment now, you feel like the windows of Heaven have finally opened up and showered down this wonderful blessing that you are nervous about receiving.

While it may not seem real, it is, and before you know it, you will be the proud parent of a happy, beautiful baby. Yes, it has probably been one of the most laborious and emotionally stressful processes in your life, but now is the time for you to jump for joy and prepare for your new baby. You may actually have some strange feelings that almost seem to stop you in your tracks when you get ready to do something in anticipation of your baby's arrival. Truth is, those feelings are not strange at all. Most new parents start to question themselves, their lives, and their abilities when their baby is almost here. You just need a little boost, a nudge of reassurance to get moving. A perfect way to get motivated for your new bundle of happiness is to start to prepare your child's nursery. Whether you will create a nursery from scratch or you have already reserved a space in your home, these spring cleaning tips will help you to make your baby's new room welcoming and safe:

1. Dust like never before. Take the time to get into those little cracks and crevices where dust bunnies hide. Also, wash all window treatments and bedding, which can also be dust culprits.

2. Make sure that all air duct filters are cleaned out. Babies can develop allergies if the air is not clean.

3. Paint the walls well in advance. Do your best not to wait until the day before baby is to arrive to pull out the paint and brush. Plan your nursery, its colors, and them. As the nursery goes from plan to reality, you will start to feel great and excited knowing that your baby will enjoy his or her surroundings also.

4. Do all of the glass cleaning and, if you live in a cooler climate, you may consider making sure that the windows are well insulated to block out any drafts.

5. Keep safety at the forefront of your nursery plans. Outlet covers, childproof locks, and safety devices will help for you to feel more comfortable with your child being in the nursery as they start to grow. Remember, your infant will not be a "baby" forever.

6. Ensure that all nursery equipment is properly installed or assembled. This will give you peace of mind knowing that baby is being well protected.

7. Take care of flooring and floor cleaning. Whether you decide on hardwood floors or carpet, make sure that the floors are clean before baby arrives. You don't want to bring your baby into an environment of too much noise and unrest. As your baby settles in, then, start doing some of the "noisier" tasks, such as running the vacuum or floor cleaner around the baby.

8. Enjoy this time and, especially, when your baby gets there!

The moments that you will share with your baby will make all of your efforts worth it. As you and baby sway on that rocking chair, instead of fears and unbelief, your mind may be filled with hopes and dreams for your child and your family.

Catholics Considering Adoption: Praying With Confidence

2011-03-03T14:38:00.000-08:00

Prayer is a key element in a Catholic’s walk with Jesus Christ. It is the doorway to our intimate relationship with Him. Through scripture and attending Mass, we are encouraged to pray with confidence to receive what our Father in heaven has stored up for us. How much more would God want us to pray about our adoption decision?

When you begin to consider adoption, prayer will be your foundation as you make decisions and plans in every step of the process. Without prayer, and studying the Holy Scriptures and participating in Holy Communion with Him we cannot continuously achieve the balance we need physically, emotionally, and spiritually. God desires to help us in every aspect of life. Our part is to accept blessings provided to us by Jesus as Our Lord and seek direction from His Church to know His will in building your family.

Family and children are a priority with God. When we enter this world, we are born of the flesh. God has given us the privilege of being accepted into His family through faith in His Son Jesus and communing with Him through the Holy Sacraments.

According to Ephesians 1:5, our Heavenly Father planned in advance that His children would not only be born into His family, but that we would also be received as His adopted children “according to the good pleasure of His will.” Adoption has always been on His heart. Joseph adopted and accepted Jesus as his child as well. Adoption is mentioned throughout the Scriptures.

God’s desire for us is that we achieve our adoption goals with confidence. The Bible in 1 John 5:14-15 encourages us, “Now this is the confidence that we have in Him, that if we ask anything according to His will, He hears us. And if we know that He hears us, whatever we ask, we know that we have the petitions that we have asked of Him.”

If you are thinking about adoption, you will receive direction for building your family as you spend time in God’s word and call upon Him in prayer for help each day. Peace in your decision will become clearer and you will be assured as to the next step as you turn to Him and commit to these daily activities.
• Seek His wisdom and plan for you
• Read and study His Holy Word
• Pray for step-by-step guidance
• Attend Mass on a regular basis
• Know that delay is not denial
• Wait for God’s direction before responding in every decision

Yes, adoption takes time and patience. And, for most of us, waiting isn’t the easiest thing to do, especially when we are looking for an immediate answer. My own adoption was a test in faith and believing that the Lord would fulfill our desire to be a mom and dad. I struggled through the hard times when people around me were chosen as adoptive parents over us. Honestly, at times I felt God had forgotten us, but He hadn’t. And when our time came, God rewarded us with the most wonderful little boy.

God is good, and I can’t imagine life without our son. Though our wait for the child the Lord had for us was hard, I soon forgot it. Once I had my son in my arms and our eyes met, I knew this was the child the Lord had for us to love and parent.

God knows the desire of your hearts. If you will trust Him and have confidence in His Divine plan for your life, you will find it easier to hear His guidance and find peace in allowing Him to order your steps in finding your child. He will give you the desires of your heart and you will have the child He desires for you in your arms.

By waiting on the Lord, you will develop patience and understanding. You will learn to depend totally on Him, and your foundation will be laid for the wonderful days and years ahead as you fulfill your responsibilities as Godly parents.

If you approach the adoption process confidently trusting the Lord and prayerfully seeking His will in every detail, you will have set yourself up for the most exciting adventure of your life—the journey to parenthood!

If you are considering adoption, these websites will help you learn more about the adoption process and how to get started:
www.LifetimeAdoption.com
www.CatholicAdoptionOnline.com
www.ChristianAdoptionOnline.com

11 Steps Christians Need to Complete Their Adoption

2011-03-02T08:32:00.000-08:00

All of us have goals, whether we know it or not. Common goals might be to save for the future or to travel, buy a home, a new car, or to purchase items we need and want to make our lives more enjoyable. As an adoptive mother I know working with waiting adoptive parents that the majority of us want to start a family and as Christians, having a family to share our faith with is the most important aspect of all.

Wherever two or more of you are gathered in his name…there is love.

An important distinction of people who succeed at adoption is that they have faith in their desires, are very intentional in their steps, and are focused on their goal. Many prospective adoptive parents look and dream about adopting but do little to move past that point. While it is wise to do research before moving on to adopt, there are many who don’t move any further to complete what they have started. Fear is often the culprit.

Be strong and of a good courage, fear not, nor be afraid...for the Lord thy God, He it is that doth go with thee; He will not fail thee, nor forsake thee.
Bible, Deuteronomy

Successful adoptive parents know that the timing, planning, and dedication to completing their adoption goal can make its success much easier and smoother. As with any goal, there are basic steps that must be taken to attain the desired end result… becoming a parent! Those who have gone before you know it takes time and patience and following a concise plan to realize adoption success.

Here are 11 important steps toward a successful adoption:

1. Prepare to PRAY- Prayer is one of the most important steps you can take. Have faith in the Lord Jesus Christ to find you the perfect child for your forever family. Your child is out there. Waiting. In God’s time, you will find her/him. Be patient, have faith, and remember, love conquers all.

2. Adoption goals are SPECIFIC- To reach your goal of adoption, your brain must know exactly, and precisely, what you are trying to accomplish. Never state your goal with vague terms like “someday I would like to adopt” or “in the future” or “maybe we will adopt.” Be specific! If you want to adopt a newborn within two years, then specify those exact details. If you want to find an adoption professional this month and start the process, be exact. Your brain and God can help you accomplish almost anything if you know precisely what you are aiming for.

3. Adoption goals that are SIMPLE and Focused- Many people describe their adoption goals in ideals that are complex and may conflict with each other, i.e., we want a child from our surrounding area that looks like us and is born in the summer when school is out and of a birth mother with no expenses and . . . The list goes on and on. Any ONE of those things is a great goal, but the combination becomes overwhelming, difficult, and our minds can get confused. If you want to adopt a healthy infant, just say so! If you want to keep birth mother expenses down to under $1,000, say so! Keep your goals simple, clear, and focused.

4. Adoption goals are REALISTIC- To reach your goal, you will need an adoption plan, a path, and help for getting there. Your goals must make sense. When you explain them to friends and family, your goals should create excitement and draw support and encouragement. Your adoption goals should be just out of reach, but not out of sight. You want to stretch, not strain after impossible dreams. Set realistic goals daily or weekly you can and will achieve if you stick with it and have a good plan! More families fall short of this one secret, that is, don’t give up and don’t slack off in what you need to do to reach your goal.

5. Adoption goal has to be worth achieving - No one can gather the enthusiasm, hard work and courage to go forth and adopt if they don’t want to adopt 100%. A successful adoption goal is one you really, REALLY want! It’s something that will change your life, enhance your family, and fulfill you. It gets your energy flowing, gets you up in the morning, and keeps you going all day long, because it is important! Set adoption goals that you feel are worth achieving! If your spouse is not ready to adopt, the chances of success are reduced and it is not fair to bring a child into a family that is not completely devoted to adoption and raising this child.

6. Adoption goals that have benefits and are purposeful- Successful adoptive parents know that the best goals accomplish many great benefits, all at one time. Adopting will almost certainly: (1) Feel great! (2) Be the start of completing your family; (3) Enhance your life forever; (4) Provide opportunity to share the love and your faith you have with a child; (5) Add a new member to your family; (6) Build patience; (7) Cause you to view parenting in a new light.

Take the time to describe how adoption will impact the many areas of your life. You’ll have more reasons to move forward toward your goal and more excitement when you do!

7. Your adoption goals must be reachable and MEASURABLE- A goal without a measurable outcome is just a daydream. If you read all the adoption books, call adoption professionals every day for a year for information or attend weekly support meetings religiously but you don’t apply some of what you have learned, you will not get anywhere in your adoption goal. Remembering the old truth that, “What gets measured, gets done.” Define your goals in terms of steps, expense, and time willing to dedicate to the process. Then measure your progress along the way. What have you done and what do you still need to do?

8. Adoption goals equal a TANGIBLE adoption.-You need to be able to imagine seeing, hearing, smelling and holding your child. Work on the steps you know are realistic and that you can clearly visualize doing. Our minds have a hard time grasping “someday we will adopt a child”, but it can visualize a healthy child under 12 months old! Define your goals in terms that excite the senses, and then go for it with all your heart, sharing you heart’s desire with the Lord in prayer.

9. Adoption goals are WRITTEN down.-Successful adoptive parents know precisely what they want, because they’ve written it down. Often, they write a short description of their goals every single morning, as a personal reminder of their priorities and their objectives. They do what they must each day to achieve this goal, such as working on their adoption profile, filling out their home study paperwork or making the doctor’s appointments for physicals. Reviewing what is on their list that still needs to be done on their part of the adoption. The act of writing your goals down will greatly increase your chance of doing what is necessary to move closer to your successful adoption. Write it down! Then, keep your notes where you can see and read them every day, and take a step closer to that goal of adopting. Consider wearing a reminder like an adoption prayer bracelet to keep your goals and praying for them near you.

10. Adoption goals are SHARED- You are far more likely to stick to our adoption plan and reach your goal if you know our friends, family and other adoptive parents support us and our plan to adopt. Being part of a group of people with the same goal increases our determination, our stamina, and our courage to keep going. Caution: Never share your goals with anyone who may ridicule, belittle or discourage you from adopting! The world is full of doubters and you have no time for them. Find a support group, a group of successful adoptive parents, and others who have succeeded who will encourage you every step of the way. Successful adoptive parents count on and confide with others who have the same goal! Too often family members are unfamiliar with the way adoptions are conducted today and have only been educated by the media to fear adoption. The truth is that the majority of adoptions go through without incident or problems every single day.

11. Adoption goals should be CONSISTENT WITH YOUR VALUES- One of the biggest reasons people fail to achieve their adoption goals is that they have conflict between what is valuable to them and what is realistic. Do they perceive adoption as rescuing a poor child or as a gift from one person to another? Is a child not of your body as valuable in your mind as a biological child? Whenever your values and your goals are in agreement, there is no stopping you! Clarify your values first, and then set simple, specific, measurable, tangible, written goals that are consistent with your personal values. You will achieve adoption success, when you take these steps! Don’t give up, and remember-There is a child for you!

A Lesson In Patience as You Wait to Adopt

2011-02-24T12:22:00.000-08:00

It has been a long, stressful road. When you chose to adopt you were, in fact, making a life-altering decision. Up to this point, you may have spent countless days, years even, hoping, and longing for a child of your own. You may have cried out of desperation in your quest to conceive. All of these efforts may have felt like they were to no avail, but the reality is that the time that you spent preparing yourself for the birth process, you were actually preparing yourself for the journey of motherhood. Everyone has a path that they will take to parenthood. Adoption is yours, and as you know, it is a process. Whether or not it seems unbearable, you will have to exercise patience as your family progresses through the process.

At times, you will, no doubt, question yourself. You will question those that are working to help you realize your dreams of being a parent. You will wonder if this is the right thing for you to do and, if you will be good at it. But, even as you wonder, your patience may be stretched a bit thin. You have to remember that this is a process, and that it will not happen overnight. It will take time. It may take, what feels like, an eternity. Consider this...the time spent going through the adoption procedures will seem like a drop in a bucket once you have your child in your arms. The hugs that you will share, the moment that you tuck them in bed, the many, many nights that you will care for them, and each time they accomplish something great in their lives, that time will seem miniscule, tiny even. As you watch them grow, when they hit their first home run, or even when you listen to them perform in a school play, that time that you waited will seem like a blink of an eye.

So, hold on. Take solace in knowing that it will soon be over. You will have your child, and then, you will absolutely need patience. But, you will be more confident and, much more able to enjoy your child. You may even be extremely thankful for that time, and proud of how you handled things...a lesson that you will be able to share with your child in years to come.

Are You Setting Yourself Up for Disappointment in Adoption?

2011-02-23T12:36:00.000-08:00

“Once we decided to adopt, I felt I needed to put some boundaries around when it would happen,” Janet shared over lunch. “I mean I am a list person, I like to get things off my list and I have been working on getting pregnant for four years and I just want a baby,” she went on.

Some families put pressure on themselves by setting a goal of when they will adopt. "I just really feel this is our year…that we will adopt by the end of 2011," she added.

Other parents feel they must be parents by a certain age, for example, "by my 35th birthday, we WILL have our baby." This type of goal-setting may not really be healthy. It adds unneeded pressure not only to the adoptive mother and her spouse, but all the people trying to help her adopt the right child. Some hopeful adoptive parents try to force an adoption. Much like forcing a green fruit to ripen, it often doesn’t and sometimes rots. Some things can’t be forced and adoption is one of those.

Adoption and the process of adopting is completely different from other life goals, such as professional accomplishments or owning a home. The same goal-setting techniques may not apply to adoption. As a high achiever myself, I understand how hard it is to hit a glass ceiling and then have to wait. This can sometimes become one of the most difficult times in your life if you don’t take the time and learn how to turn your thoughts and feelings inside out and be patient. In adoption, patience is the key to your success.

How to Make Your Adoption Promise Come True Today!

2011-02-22T16:14:00.000-08:00

What is standing in the way of realizing your dream of raising a child? You WANT a child. You WANT to be a parent. You WANT to adopt. So what’s holding you back? Whatever it is, there are many families facing the same questions you have. So how will YOU say YES to your adoption dream today?

Lifetime Adoption will host a FREE live teleconference, welcoming Joan, adoptive mother of 2 daughters.

Joan will share her story, answer your questions, and discuss how she worked through the common obstacles hopeful adoptive parents face when beginning any adoption journey, including:

When to move from infertility to adoption.

What it took for both husband and wife to get on board with adopting.
How they found the peace to stop researching and start adopting.
Tips and insights learned that will benefit YOUR adoption today.

Discover what it takes to start the path to adopting the child of your dreams.

Open Adoption

2011-02-17T14:00:00.000-08:00

Many times when speaking to potential adoptive parents, I find that they are a bit wary when the conversation gets to the open part of open adoption. I've found that many parents simply don't know what to expect. When they hear about sharing letters & photos or even visits with a birthmother, they often become quite uncomfortable.

The reality is that for children of open adoption, contact with or knowledge of their birthmother is absolutely normal. There are few questions of who or why, it is just naturally part of their heritage.

As far as contact with a birthmother, when the match is being made through an agency or facilitator, one of the major things that should be considered is what each party is committed to with the degree of contact. No one wants to see a birthmother heartbroken when her chosen family fails to keep their commitment or make a commitment when it comes to contact. And also, a family shouldn't feel as though they have to agree to something they are not comfortable with, simply to be successful with adoption.

There are wonderful children's books out there for parents who would like to build a library for their children to help teach them why adoption makes them so special, and why their birthmothers are incredible people who made their safe, loving, secure life possible.

To learn more about the gift of open adoption, please visit this website: OpenAdoption.com

Adoption: No Need To Cross The Sea To Make Your Adoption Dreams Come True

2011-02-15T09:32:00.001-08:00

This could be the one time that you want to miss the boat!

Many people have made the decision to adopt internationally because they were not educated as to their domestic options. It’s unfathomable that people would think that there was some type of shortage of children to adopt right here in the United States. Nothing could be further from the truth!

America has plenty of children that are waiting to be adopted, in addition to pregnant women who are seeking stable, Christian families for their unborn baby. The reality of it all is that if you truly have a desire to bring a child into your life, you may be able to make your dream happen for much less money than adopting internationally and, potentially, a lot faster too!

At Lifetime Adoption Center, they are actively looking for adoptive families who are eager to adopt a newborn or older child. There is no fee to apply for their program and they work with potential adoptive parents nationwide.

There are many benefits for adopting domestically, as well, for both the adoptive parents and their child. For the child, he or she will have parents that may have a better understanding about his or her culture.

For the adoptive parents, there are numerous ways to adopt domestically, which includes no-cost options. While international adoption will almost always be a major financial undertaking that, in addition to the legal costs of adopting, will also include international air travel which can be exceptionally expensive.

Additionally, there may not be any language barriers, which can make communication between parent and child more challenging, because the family will all speak English. Having a child that speaks English as their first language could usher in the opportunity for even more meaningful exchanges early in your relationship, and will allow for communicating beyond the basics.

Adopting domestically will serve to help to decrease the number of American children that are dreaming and anxiously waiting to have their own family. Planning to adopt is a life decision that can require a great deal of adjusting personally, financially, and emotionally. When you start looking to make it happen, with help from a qualified adoption specialist, you may not have look any further than your own home land.

Learn more about domestic adoption at www.LifetimeAdoption.com and www.OpenAdoption.com.

16 African American Birthmothers Seeking Adoptive Parents

2011-02-10T10:47:00.001-08:00

Lifetime Adoption currently has 16 African American birth mothers seeking black or bi-racial adoptive parents. A list of birthmothers seeking adoptive parents can be seen on www.LifetimeAdoption.com. Most women have asked for Protestant Christian or Catholic married couples with less than three children. Some birthmothers have expressed interest in a black single mother. Most are due in the next few weeks to months.

If you are interested or would like to request an application please request information at www.LifetimeAdoption.com. There is no cost to apply. Grants are available by application, which help defray some of the cost. Legal and home study fees are not included.

Lifetime Adoption - Safe and successful adoptions since 1986. Member of the Better Business Bureau with A+ ratings.

Our Answered Adoption Prayer

2011-02-02T12:26:00.000-08:00

Are you an adoptive family waiting to be chosen? Check out Todd and Michelle's adoption story for encouragement and some tips on handling the wait:

"Dear Dee, Libby, Diane & all our "Lifetime Angels",

We are thrilled to finally get to share our adoption story...when we got OUR life-changing phone call from Diane, she had news of a birthmom to share with us; we could not believe our ears. We had been waiting for two years to get such a call!

Here is look at our whirlwind December. On a Monday afternoon we spoke for the first time. We were "matched" that evening! What an amazing Christmas gift; our baby was due on the 22nd of December. However, as it turns out, our baby girl was anxious to meet the world. I got a call from Diane on the 8th, that our birthmom was in labor and she requested that we go to the hospital. WOW! I made about 100 phone calls, threw baby gear and some clothes in a suitcase and we were on the road 30 minutes later. We arrived at the hospital two hours later and were able to meet our birthmother and get to know her a little bit (my husband never did speak with her over the phone).

At 3:51 pm, our beautiful daughter, Georgia Shay was born into the world weighing eight pounds, three ounces, measuring 20 1/2". We were told that our birthmother would like a couple of minutes with her, but shortly we would be able to hold her for the first time. The whole thing felt like a dream, everything happened so quickly."

Click here to read the rest of Todd and Michelle's adoption story!

Mardie Caldwell to Talk About Oprah's Adoption Secret Revealed:

2011-01-24T13:57:00.000-08:00

Lifetime's Founder Mardie Caldwell will appear on TV's Inside Edition tonight to talk about Oprah's secret revealed: that her sister was placed for adoption. Here's the show preview from their site:

"Oprah Winfrey revealed to the world that she has a secret sister she didn't know existed until November.

Oprah's eyes flooded with tears as she sat across from her half-sister Patricia, who seemed nervous as she was suddenly thrust into the national spotlight

Audience members gasped as Oprah revealed the details of the bombshell family drama.

Patricia and Oprah share the same mother, Vernita Lee, but have different fathers. The 48-year-old from Milwaukee was given up for adoption just days after she was born.

"I had no idea that my mother had given up a baby in 1963, I was 9 years old at the time, living with my father in Nashville, and didn't even know my mother was pregnant," Oprah explained.

Patricia says she tried for years to learn the identity of her birth mother, to no avail.

"She had made the decision at that particular time that she did not want to see me," explained Patricia.

But Patricia obtained her adoption documents and with the help of her two children she used clues in them to pursue the truth.

Patricia says she actually made the shocking discovery that Oprah was her sister in 2007, and tried every way possible to contact the TV titan.

"She had tried, and tried, and tried again, even wrote an e-mail to our offices back in 2007. She never once thought to go to the press, she never once thought to sell the story…so thank you, thank you," said Oprah, holding her sister's hand.

Patricia eventually made inroads with the family by finding her long-lost niece. Word spread through the family and Oprah finally found out about her secret sister in November.

"Finally I said to my assistant Libby, 'What is going on in this family? What is going on?' She says, 'You have a sister,' and I'm like, 'Whaaat?!' "Oprah told the audience.

She shared home video of their first face-to-face get-together at a family Thanksgiving gathering.

Oprah says she was immediately struck by Patricia's eerie resemblance to her other half-sister, who died in 2003, also named Patricia.

"It was so uncanny to us and to everybody in this family how much this Patricia looked like, moved like, talked like Pat," she said.

Oprah and Patricia sat down together and confronted their mother about the family secret.

"I thought it was a terrible thing for me to do, that I had done, gave up my daughter," Vernita Lee told them.

"We see this very often with adoptions, that one party wants to open and the other does not, and again a lot of it has to do with shame from the past and fear," Mardie Caldwell, founder and CEO of Lifetime Adoption Center, told INSIDE EDITION.

Oprah says she and Patricia are now getting to know each other and are still processing the shocking revelation.

"What has been the most rewarding part of this for you?" Oprah asked Patricia.

"Finding my family," she said."

Click here to go to find out more at InsideEdition.com and find your local airtime.

Open Adoption: What Does it Mean?

2011-01-19T11:00:00.001-08:00

Have you been wondering what open adoption entails? What does it mean to birthparents and adoptive parents? Learn in my short video:

What is Open Adoption?
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Adoption & Leaving a Legacy

2011-01-05T13:55:00.000-08:00

Please mark you calendars to tune into NewsTalk 1530 KFBK radio this Sunday at noon Pacific time to hear my special interview! You can also tune into their live online stream. I'll be discussing adoption and leaving a legacy with your adopted children. Tune in live via their online stream using this link: KFBK.com.

Military Adoption While Stationed Overseas

2010-12-23T13:58:00.000-08:00

Did you know that you can adopt a baby while stationed overseas with the military? Lifetime Adoption has helped a lot of military families who are stationed overseas adopt successfully and safely. To learn how we can help you, visit www.LifetimeAdoption.com. Or, you can send us an email to adopt@lifetimeadoption.com. The military has many benefits available to you as an adoptive family, and also adoption grants are available to help you afford adoption. Watch this video to learn about how an overseas military adoption is possible:

Military Adoption While Overseas
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Christmas Greetings from Lifetime Adoption!

2010-12-17T14:28:00.000-08:00

Here at Lifetime Adoption Center, we are enjoying the joyous Holiday Season! We receive hundreds of Christmas greetings with photos of the ever-growing families we have helped create over the years. How blessed we are to receive these annual greetings and reminders of how our daily work touches people!

Before Adopting, Strengthen Your Marriage

2010-12-11T10:03:00.001-08:00

Are you wondering how to best prepare for adopting? Adoption is a blessing, so please make sure your marriage is solid before bringing a child into your home. Adoption and infertility treatments can be stressful to your marriage, so having a solid foundation is important.

Watch my video for tips on how to tune up your marriage before adopting:

Lifetime's Everyday Giving Program - Adoption Charity Support

2010-11-15T15:10:00.000-08:00

We are pleased to share some exciting news about a new fundraising program for Lifetime Adoption Foundation. It’s called “Lifetime’s Everyday Giving Program”, and it’s the fundraising program that works while you shop. And the best part…it doesn’t cost anything to participate!

You are probably asking yourself how these stores help us raise money. It’s simple -- scrip participating retailers agree to sell gift cards to our organization at a discount. Member families like yours buy the cards for full face value redeem them for full face value, and the Foundation keeps the difference as revenue. All proceeds from Lifetime’s Everyday Giving Program benefit Lifetime Adoption Foundation – Building Families & Future.

Visit www.LifetimesEverydayGiving.com to purchase gift cards and help out this adoption charity!

Open Adoption Tip of the Day

2010-11-10T14:28:00.000-08:00

Always, always, always, always keep your word to your birth family and to your child. If you have issues with remaining in contact with your child’s birth family, you must communicate your challenges to your adoption professional. Ask them to work with you to help you get through your fears to ensure you keep your word to your birth family.

Consider that someday your child might want to find out more about their birth family. If you’ve brushed their birth family aside and you have not kept your word about contact, you will not be able to answer your child’s questions about where they come from. This is not a being a good role model for your child. If you don’t think you can keep your word on future contact in adoption, you may need to re-evaluate your adoption goals.

Start the communication today, and be honest first with your fears and then learn as much as you can to help you overcome them. I did and understood how important it is to have the information for my child. I got over the fear of not being as loved as my child’s birth family. Your child is here because you were trusted at the start. Be communicative before time the child enters your home.

Adoption Interview on The 700 Club

2010-11-09T14:56:00.000-08:00

I will be interviewed this Thursday on The 700 Club! The interview will air at 9am Eastern time; check The 700 Club website for your local broadcast times. In my interview, I'll share how I came to work in adoption, common myths about adoption, and tips for people hoping to adopt. I'll also share about National Adoption Awareness Month (November) and ways to honor it.

Ways to Celebrate Adoption

2010-11-08T15:15:00.000-08:00

November is National Adoption Awareness Month! Wondering how you can celebrate it?

Subscribe to Adoption Today on Facebook, and read the Lifetime Adoption Center feature article "11 Ways to Celebrate Adoption", highlighting easy ways you can honor adoption this month, or anytime! You can also order single copies of November's issue for $2 each.

Turning Your Valuables Into Adoption Cash

2010-11-01T15:00:00.000-07:00

You may have thought that you and your partner would be able to have a child of your own naturally. Unfortunately, things have not gone as planned and you have made the decision to adopt. Adoption can be an expensive process, and many have found that their savings alone will not be sufficient. There are ways that you can do some fundraising of your own to raise the money that you need.

You can get things started by taking a personal inventory of items that you own. Some people acquire valuables through a number of different life experiences. For instance, you may be a collector of trading cards or maybe you have purchased some antiques through your travels. The reality is that you could be sitting on a mint. It may be time to part with some of those valuables to get the cash to fund your adoption. Visit AdoptionFinancingInformation.com to view some resources that could be useful for selling off items in order to raise money!

Joys Shared are Doubled, Sorrows Shared are Halved

2010-10-26T15:14:00.000-07:00

Inspirational Thought For You Today:

Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go.
-Joshua 1:9 NIV

It was then that I found this special scripture that was so comforting to me. Some days I would repeat it out loud, hoping it would sink in. I even wrote it on a small card and carried it in the pocket of my jeans, reading it throughout the day. That was before PDA’s and computer reminders that can schedule a pop up on your cell phone.

My suggestion (and what I do today) is to take advantage of the technology available. Use it to add inspirational thoughts or scriptures that will pop up during your day and encourage and strengthen you. For me, I have them sent directly to my cell phone and on my Outlook calendar. I hope you will find how amazing it is that the timing of the message is right at a time when I need it most.

God bless and remember to "be strong and courageous."

-Mardie Caldwell

What makes Lifetime Different?

2010-10-20T14:12:00.000-07:00

What makes Lifetime so different from other adoption organizations? We have worked hard to make Lifetime Adoption one of the best, if not the best in the nation, for domestic adoption. Let us share this with
you:

What makes Lifetime Adoption different from other organizat
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A Record Number of Infant Adoptions!

2010-10-13T14:35:00.001-07:00

One bright spot in the news are the updates coming from Lifetime Adoption Center. Working nationwide, they are seeing a record number of adoptions completed, especially in the last few months.

"We've had 3 babies in the last 7 days, and the week before that saw another 3 adoptions including one set of twins!" says Heather Featherston, Lifetime's Director. "Birth mothers are choosing families quickly and we are on track to see more adoptions in the next three months than any other similar period in our history."

Currently working with over 400 women considering adoption for their unborn babies, Lifetime's staff is available around the clock to provide the services needed for potential birth mothers. One challenge they face are ensuring they have families who are ready to adopt. "Currently, because of the economic downturn, we are finding many families are not prepared to say YES when offered a match," Featherston reports. "The need for families continues to be great."

If you are considering adoption, Lifetime Adoption would be happy to review your application at no cost to you. Lifetime also currently offers affordable payment plans.

Are you ready to begin the journey to the baby that God has waiting for you? Don't wait another day. Complete Lifetime's free application today!

If you have questions, please call Lifetime at 530-432-7373 to speak with a caring adoption coordinator about growing your family through the miracle of adoption!

Adoption Interview on Lifetime television

2010-10-12T09:53:00.000-07:00

I'll be appearing on The Balancing Act on Lifetime television November 9 from 7-8am et/pt. I'll be interviewed about the many options you have if you are thinking about adopting. You can also learn about services and opportunities available to you as an adoptive parent.

Catch a preview of my interview here:

Your Maternity Clothing Needed

2010-10-08T13:04:00.000-07:00

Are you done with your maternity clothes and they're just taking up room in your closet? Maybe you have a friend or family member who just had a baby. The non-profit organization Lifetime Adoption Foundation needs your help! We are in need of your unused or gently-worn maternity clothes. The Lifetime Adoption Foundation provides assistance through clothing, household items, and basic necessities for pregnant women in need. All sizes & items help!

You may either mail or drop off your maternity clothing to this address:

Lifetime Adoption Foundation
17860 Cattle Drive
Penn Valley, CA 95946

Your donations are tax deductible and we'll provide you with a receipt. If you have any questions, please give us a call at 530.432.7383.

October issue of Adoption Newsletter

2010-10-06T09:47:00.000-07:00

Questions about the adoption process? Subscribe to the Adoption for Life newsletter for up-to-date info. The October issue has just been released, and covers topics on adoption financing and grants. Visit www.AdoptionforLife.com to subscribe to this free newsletter!

Going the Extra Mile for Open Adoption

2010-09-15T10:27:00.000-07:00

Lifetime Adoption is committed to the success of our birth parents and adoptive parents and their wishes for an open adoption plan. We’ll always go the extra mile to ensure the quality of our adoption services are always the focus for the good of the children we help find forever adoptive families for. As you can see from our media page, we are very well-covered by the press, radio and television. This comes as a result of our commitment to your adoption success as well as ours!

To find out about how YOU can add to your family through a Lifetime adoption, visit www.LifetimeAdoption.com!

Adoption Gift Shop

2010-09-03T12:14:00.001-07:00

Do you love to shop? Looking to learn more about how to adopt safely and successfully? Check out this online adoption gift shop! Items for sale include adoption jewelry, adoption mugs, books, and more!

Go shopping today!

Lifetime Adoption Needs Adoptive Families!

2010-08-26T13:22:00.000-07:00

The need for adoptive families has never been more urgent! Currently, Lifetime Adoption is working with hundreds of women nationwide who are planning to place their baby or child for adoption. We do have payment plans and other financial assistance available. In particular, Lifetime is looking for families who are:

• Of African American or bi-racial descent
• African American or bi-racial couples open to adopting a baby of either gender
• African American or bi-racial couples open to adopting a male baby or child

At present, Lifetime Adoption is able to offer adoptive families a grant of $4,000 to help offset adoption fees. Additional grants may also be available.

We have information available about financing your adoption, including how to receive a $13,150 IRS tax credit plus a $3,200 tax deduction.

If you have questions about Lifetime’s adoption program, you may call us at (530) 432-7373.

Take the first step today by completing Lifetime's Application. If we are unable to help you, we can provide referrals to other professionals who may meet your needs. There is a baby out there for you. On behalf of the entire staff at Lifetime, we are standing by eagerly awaiting to help you find the baby of your dreams. Don't let another day go by; learn more about a Lifetime Adoption today!

Ask a Birthmother Your Question!

2010-08-24T15:03:00.000-07:00

Lifetime Adoption Center is hosting a free teleconference with a birthmother who placed her daughter for adoption. We want to gather questions from YOU to be sure this special opportunity meets your needs as prospective adoptive parents.

To register for the call...
If you could ask a birthmother any question, what would it be?

1. Please visit this page to submit your question as well as the best email address to receive the dial-in information for the call on Thursday.

2. Mark your calendar for this Thursday night, August 26 at 9pm Eastern Time (that's 8pm Central, 7pm Mountain, and 6pm Pacific).

3. Dial-in at the number provided from the comfort of your home.

Please note... Space will be limited on the call so register early. We will be making the rebroadcast of the call available if the lines fill up.

Please submit your questions here even if you can't dial-in live. The replay will be available after the call and we want to be sure you can listen in!

Adoption Prayer Bracelet Summer SALE!

2010-08-18T15:05:00.000-07:00

AdoptionPrayerBracelet.com is holding a special summer SALE! Adoption Prayer Bracelets are lovingly handmade and each as unique as the adoption journey it represents. Be inspired to "pray without ceasing" for adoption.

When you purchase these special bracelets, you are helping a child find a loving adoptive family. You'll also help birthmothers find a future after their adoption plan. All proceeds go directly to the Lifetime Adoption Foundation.

Use coupon code "SUMMERSALE" when you check out to get FREE shipping on all orders of 2 or more Adoption Prayer Bracelets. Hurry, coupon code expires September 1, 2010.

Order today!

Adoption Newsletter Educates You on How to Successfully Adopt

2010-08-04T10:12:00.000-07:00

Are you looking for information about adoption? Have you been pursuing adoption and need some tips to make it happen for you?

If you are on the road to adoption, you need to receive our FREE newsletter Adoption for Life, designed just for you. Offering adoption news, tips for successful adoptions, ideas for marketing your family and more, we are sure you will find something that will help you complete your adoption journey.

His Plan, His Timing

2010-07-28T14:16:00.001-07:00

Today as you wake up and take in the morning. Thank God for another day.

And remember that Jesus loves you very much. Keep this in mind throughout your day. I wear my adoption prayer bracelet to remind me to pray for others that are involved in adoption, realizing they may need prayer and to also know that there is hope and a future when we pray and trust the Lord with our adoption plans. God has a special plan just for you! He is with you throughout your day, from sun up to sunset. He will guide us in our decisions and comfort us when we need it. Start by spending more time with God in prayer, meditation, and studying His word and give thanks for His plan and His timing in your adoption.

Adoption Loss? How to Manage

2010-07-21T14:06:00.001-07:00

Adoption loss is always difficult. When your heart is broken, it takes time to trust and heal again. I have been there and it is hard but looking at the bigger picture helped me see that the Lord is in control. He has a much bigger picture of my life and the situation that I was hoping would work out, was in His plan as well. Jesus knows what you are going through and that you are becoming like Him through this time.

For me and my loss, there was another purpose: I was to learn and then help others whose hearts were heavy with want and love but also broken at one time or another through the process. God used me and He will use you to help bring healing to your life and to others along the way. Don't waste your experiences; they have great value if we can just see past it in faith. God has not forgotten you or left you. Remember that.

Birthmothers Are Hungry

2010-07-13T12:17:00.000-07:00

Recently, Lifetime Adoption Foundation ran out of food closet items to mail our birthmothers. So, we expressed a need for non-perishable items to fill our food closet again. Your food closet donations go to help our Lifetime birthmothers in need!

We are always in need of non-perishable food items, such as canned food, granola bars, peanut butter, cereal, and soup. Protein-rich foods such as canned tuna would be great!

Other donors have sent the donations directly from companies such as Amazon, Meijer, and other online vendors. We can send you a donation receipt for your tax purposes. You may mail the food closet items to:

Lifetime Adoption Foundation
17860 Cattle Drive
Rough & Ready, CA 95975

Thank you for contributing to birthmothers in need!

Do You Still Plan to Adopt? Help for Adoptive Families

2010-07-08T09:08:00.001-07:00

Lifetime continues to be working with a record number of birthmothers!

As help and assistance to struggling women and children decreases, the need for adoptive families has dramatically increased. This trend began nearly two years ago and is still going strong here at Lifetime.

Specifically we are looking for families who are:
• Open to adopting African American or Bi-Racial children ($4,000 grants now available!)
• Open to adopting sibling groups
• Have fewer than 3 children at home currently

If you are still considering adoption, there has never been a better time to get started if your goal is to build your family sooner rather than later.

If you are interested in learning a little more about the economies affect on adoption, we recorded a teleconference that describes it. It had a lengthy question and answer period at the end.

Click to listen to our teleconference, How the Economy Affects Adoption

Due to the size of this file, I’m not sure how long we are able to make it available so listen to it as soon as you are able.

Here is what we covered in that call:

• Why the number of adoptions go UP during times like these.
• How families who are serious about becoming parents through adoption can benefit from tough economic times.
• How to find the money you need to adopt.
• How to connect with today’s birthmother who is looking for financially secure adoptive families.

I hope you are able to take some time to listen this call and get the information that so many other families have valued from learning!

ALSO… Lifetime has a number of different payment plans currently available. If you are still looking to build your family through adoption, please call Lifetime to see how we can work together to help you reach your dream! Our number is (530) 432-7373.

Adoption for Life e-newsletter

2010-07-07T14:16:00.000-07:00

A brand-new issue of Adoption for Life newsletter has just been released! This month, we are happy to bring you vital adoption information, including an upcoming adoption meeting and free adoption podcasts.

Visit AdoptionforLife.com to learn about how you can make your adoption dreams come true!

Worried About Your Adoption?

2010-06-30T14:16:00.001-07:00

Have you found that you're worrying more lately? Worried if you will be matched with a birth mother soon? Worried whether you will be matched at all with a birth mother? Worried if you can tell she will be the right one? Worried whether the baby will be healthy? Worried you can afford to adopt right now? Worried and worried until you can’t enjoy the day and the blessings you do have?

God gives us grace for today and then when tomorrow comes we will have grace from Him again. We can’t worry about the past and worrying about the "what if’s" of the future of things that might not need us to worry about. It just keeps us from being happy today.
I find myself worring at times too and struggle as many others do. I have to stop and ask myself:

Do I really have any control of this?
Is worrying going to help change it?
Have I done everything I needed to do that I am worrying about?
Is there something that I need to do to help with my worrying and fear?
Or, is it now just a “waiting on God” time?

I have seen people that had so much fear and worrying in their lives that they attracted what they feared the most. When they did have what they wanted in front of them, they worried so much about making a mistake and just couldn’t believe it that their fear kept them from getting just want they wanted. It is sad to see this go so far; they were not prepared and prayed up.
Don’t spend your valuable time on worrying. Think about what you are worring about, then pray about it and then put it in the hands of the Lord to take care of it. God is faithful to His children and remember He has a plan for you and everyone in your life including the child that will come into your family. He has has this master plan before you were born. Wow, that is powerful.
So, do your part and leave the details to the Lord. It is so comforting to know whatever our tomorrows hold; He will give us the strength to get through it. He will give you the support and people you need for any situation. He is the one that holds our tomorrows and is aware of our desires and has the perfect plan. It might look a little different than our plan but the best will come from what He has planned, when we have faith in Him.
God is with you right now and as a believer remember to live one day at time and enjoy today without needed worries and fear of tomorrows. Ask God today for grace and for wisdom to get pass the worry. He is faithful.

Blessing to you,

Matthew 6:34: "Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own."

11 Reasons Why You Should Attend Lifetime's Informational Meeting

2010-06-25T14:36:00.000-07:00

No obligation
Opportunity to ask all of your adoption questions
Tour of the Lifetime facility--see where the adoptions happen!
Find out how Lifetime protects your data and information, including Lifetime's security procedures
It's FREE!
Complimentary lunch in a beautiful setting in the Foothills
Meet the people who can make your adoption happen!
Hear a birthmother's perspective
Latest tips on how to safely pursue a newborn adoption in the U.S.
Free resources for hopeful adoptive parents
You'll move one step closer to the child God has waiting for you!

Let's Talk Adoption Podcasts

2010-06-23T14:20:00.001-07:00

My popular adoption radio show, Let's Talk Adoption, is now available for free download via iTunes podcast!

From a birthmother's point of view, to adoptees, adoptive family's questions, and financial planning to adopt...whatever you want to learn about adoption, all topics are covered!

Visit the Let's Talk Adoption podcast page to download.

Free Adoption Informational Meeting

2010-06-12T14:59:00.000-07:00

Are you considering adopting? There is a baby for you!

Have you thought about adopting a child but don't know where to start? Lifetime Adoption is holding a free informational meeting on Saturday, July 17, 2010 to help families learn more about how they can be blessed through adoption.

Lifetime's qualified staff will address your adoption concerns, as well as answer other questions, such as:

What do you need to do to get started?
What is independent adoption?
How much does it cost?
How can we save money in our adoption?
Answers to your legal questions
How long does it take?
What Adoption Services are important for your success?

Register here to secure your spot!

P.S. If you like this post can you do me a favor? Can you Tweet and send a link to your Facebook friends? I'd love your comments, too!
Thanks!

New Adoption Situations Posted Online

2010-06-12T14:48:00.001-07:00

Lifetime Adoption has an online listing of potential birthmothers seeking adoptive families that is kept updated daily.

A few of Lifetime Adoption's updated potential situations include:

Birthmother #4801-1, a Caucasian woman who is due in November and who is seeking to place her baby with a Christian adoptive family who do not yet have any children.
Birthmother #4799BR-1, who is expecting a bi-racial baby and would feel most comfortable placing him with a bi-racial married couple.
Birthmother #4798-1, who is pregnant with twin boys and feels they would be best with an emotionally and financially stable married couple.

If you are a not yet a Lifetime-contracted adoptive family, please fill out a free application as your first step to be presented to birthmother situations like these.

June issue of Adoption for Life e-newsletter

2010-06-09T12:05:00.000-07:00

A brand-new issue of Adoption for Life newsletter has just been released! This month, we are happy to bring you vital adoption information, including adoption myths dispelled, how to calm your adoption nerves, and info about birthparents seeking adoptive families.

Visit AdoptionforLife.com to grab your copy!

Birthparents Seeking Adoptive Families

2010-06-02T15:09:00.001-07:00

Before signing on with any adoption center, it's important to know what type of birthparents they present and if it matches what you are looking for.

On the Lifetime Adoption website, there is a current listing of Lifetime birthparents who are seeking adoption information and adoptive parents for their babies and children. These are all real situations, and the listing is updated daily. Factors that hopeful adoptive parents should consider when viewing this list are:

What age of child or baby are we looking to adopt?
What races are we open to adopting?
Do we have a preference on gender?
What amount of future contact after the adoption placement are we willing to follow through on?
Are we comfortable with our birthmother using substances before she became aware of her pregnancy?

Visit the Birthparents Seeking Adoptive Families page on the Lifetime website to view the situations. To become a Lifetime adoptive family, it's easy to apply! Just submit our free online adoption application.

Adoption Myths Dispelled

2010-05-26T14:21:00.001-07:00

Myth: There are no healthy infants available for adoption in the U.S.

Visit OpenAdoption.com to learn about some more common adoption myths.

Calming Adoption Nerves

2010-04-28T14:20:00.001-07:00

Deciding on adoption is a large step for anyone, but for many families dealing with the wait is the hardest part. In the waiting phase of your adoption it is common to become anxious. You may experience sleepless nights, difficulty focusing at work, or just the constant feeling of “butterflies” in your stomach.

All of these feelings are normal, and even expected. After all, in making an adoption plan, you are reaching for your dreams. You are investing your time, emotions, and finances, with the hope of soon becoming parents. You have taken a huge step toward growing your family, and you know that the decisions you are making now are going to change your life.

Visit USAadoptions.com for some tips for becoming proactive towards your adoption.

Mother's Day Adoption Bracelet Special

2010-04-21T14:46:00.000-07:00

Special Mother's Day Offer!

With any order of two adoption prayer bracelets, you will receive a bonus "2 Hearts" bracelet. Unique and handmade, it features two silvertone interlocked hearts.

The "2 Hearts" bracelet is a wonderful gift for anyone in your life. This is a fabulous way to get something special for you and a friend or relative!

Use coupon code MOTHER when ordering. Order today at AdoptionPrayerBracelet.com!

Island Women and Children Funds

2010-04-14T15:22:00.001-07:00

Lifetime Foundation has started a specific fund to assist Bahamian families living on the outer islands. These communities often have little water or government assistance, few opportunities for special education, and a lack of employment opportunities. The results are often high rates of abuse, substance abuse, and poverty.

Recently a party of six volunteers visited one of these islands and provided assistance through:

Advocacy for governmental repair and refill of a water tank.
Direct donations of clothing, shoes, and personal care products.
Direct dontations of food
Educational and vocational training.
Services and assistance to special needs children.
Advocacy with medical and educational professionals to expand services available.
Hands on work to teach islanders how to do basic household repair and carpentry, such as chicken coops.

The needs there are great. Similarly, the costs to help these people is great. We hope to provide more training and educational opportunities as well as assistance for children with special needs and learning disabilities. The Bahamian people are eager to learn and so grateful for any help they receive. Please prayerfully consider donating to this special fund so that more blessings may be granted through the Lifetime Foundation. Visit LifetimeFoundation.org to donate.

April Issue of Adoption for Life released

2010-04-02T13:50:00.001-07:00

The April 2010 issue of the Adoption for Life e-newsletter has just been released! This month, we are happy to bring you vital adoption information, including information about the federal adoption tax credit. It has been increased and extended!

To get your copy emailed straight to your inbox for free, visit www.AdoptionForLife.com and subscribe.

What is an Adoption Home Study?

2010-03-31T14:08:00.001-07:00

The adoption home study may sound a little invasive and scary for some hopeful parents, when in fact it is more paperwork than white glove inspection of your home. The "home study" is really a "people study". A combination of a written and oral description of your family and your lifestyle and inspection of where you will raise your child. The process is conducted by a licensed social worker trained to educate and prepare you as the adoptive family for adoption, and to assemble information about the prospective parents for the report.

Read more about adoption home studies and what they involve at OpenAdoption.com.

Adoption Tax Credit Extended & Increased!

2010-03-26T14:34:00.000-07:00

Good news for families in the process of adopting! The adoption credit and adoption assistance program will be expanded and increased. The Adoption Tax Credit will see several positive adjustments. The new law increases the adoption tax credit and adoption assistance exclusion by $1,000, makes the credit refundable, and extends the credit through 2011. The enhancements are effective for tax years beginning after December 31, 2009.

The increase is “retroactive,” meaning that any adoption occurring after January 1, 2010 is eligible for this higher credit. The credit is now refundable. This means that even families that owe zero taxes can receive the full tax credit in the form of a tax refund to help with their adoption-related expenses.

Thank you to everyone who contacted their representatives and senators about extending the Adoption Tax Credit. This is great news for families across the U.S. who are seeking for ways to afford adoption. Without this tax credit, more children could potentially end up in the system, because fewer families would be financially able to adopt.

Please make sure to consult your tax professional for questions and more details. For more adoption funding options including grants and loans, visit AdoptionFinancingInformation.com.

Step-by-Step Advice on How to Build a Successful Adoption Plan

2010-03-23T09:50:00.001-07:00

Whatever type of adoption you decide to pursue, be sure that you have done your homework. You will find you have fewer surprises when you know what to expect. The risks in some adoptions, time frames, and the cost vary in each adoption. With planning, you will be on your way to a smoother adoption and hopefully enjoyable journey.

Click here to view step-by-step advice on how to be successful in your adoption plans.

Keeping Your Credit Safe While You Adopt

2010-03-17T14:34:00.000-07:00

Security is on everyone's minds these days, and with good reason. If you're careful and take a few steps to prevent problems in advance, you shouldn't have anything to worry about in your adoption journey. Here is a little-known fact that might help you.

Did you know that you can take advantage of federal law requiring each of the national credit reporting agencies (Equifax, Experian, and Trans Union) to provide you with a free copy of your credit report once every 12 months? These reports will show you if someone has opened a credit account in your name. You can request free credit report from a different agency every four months at AnnualCreditReport.com. Remember there are companies of similar names that request credit card numbers before providing you with a report and then bill you for a credit monitoring service. This is not what you are looking for. The report you're looking for is free.

Poetry for People Touched by Adoption

2010-03-10T13:56:00.000-08:00

Here is a collection of poems for birth parents and adoptive parents alike. Touching and heartfelt, these poems express the emotions which are sometimes difficult to find the words for.

Click here to read poetry for those touched by adoption.

Free Adoption Newsletter

2010-03-03T13:25:00.001-08:00

The March 2010 issue of the Adoption for Life e-newsletter has just been released! This month, we are happy to bring you vital adoption information, including information about the federal adoption tax credit. Will it expire in 2010?

To get your copy emailed straight to your inbox for free, visit www.AdoptionForLife.com and subscribe.

Show Your Heart for Adoption!

2010-02-24T13:22:00.000-08:00

Show your heart for adoption with an Adoption Prayer Bracelet! Each bracelet is lovingly handmade, and each is as unique as the adoption journey it represents. New designs are available in earth tones, pastels, neutral colors, or jewel tones.

Be inspired to "Pray Without Ceasing" for adoption. Wearing an Adoption Prayer Bracelet is a lovely way to display your adoption hope and a reminder to pray for adoption and those
involved in the adoption process. It is a beautiful reminder of the hope and blessings brought forth through adoption.

When you purchase one or more of these special bracelets you are helping a child find a loving adoptive family and birth mothers find a future after their adoption plan. All proceeds go directly to the Lifetime Adoption Foundation.

Order your Adoption Prayer Bracelet today at www.AdoptionPrayerBracelet.com and make this beautiful investment in your adoption prayers and in helping others become blessed through adoption!

Federal Adoption Credit Permanent?

2010-02-22T14:04:00.001-08:00

Help make the tax credit for adoption permanent by writing to your legislators

The federal tax credit has been a blessing for so many children! It has helped so many little ones find the safety and stability of a forever family by assisting in the costs of adoption. Without it, more children will end up in the system as there will be few families able to financially afford to adopt.

Adoption can be expensive -- basic costs range from a few thousand to over $50,000. The federal government has provided a tax credit that has allowed families to offset their costs up to $12,000 with a credit to their taxes. Sadly, it is set to expire in 2010.

Currently there are bills in both the House of Representatives and the Senate to help save this valuable tax credit. Supporting these bills will not only help continue the blessing of adoption, but it will save children from ending up in an overburdened foster system that is simply not the best option.

If you care about children, please contact your representative and your senators and ask them to support and vote in favor of bill H.R. 213 in the House and bill S.2816 in the Senate. Here are the steps:

Find your representatives. Contacting the Congress has both phone numbers and the means by which to send e-mail: www.ContactingtheCongress.org
Call your legislator's office. Simply dial the number and let them know that you hope they support the extension of the adoption tax credit.
E-mail your legislator as well, encouraging them to support the bill.

If you are inspired, feel free to contact others, including senate leadership, the president, and media outlets to bring attention to this need.

Thank you for your help in ensuring this continues to help all the children who need to find their forever families!

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